Ego Kibbles
April 28, 2012 by Chump Lady
Cheating is a profoundly narcissistic act. (Of course, cheaters don't see it that way. Usually they cast it as selflessly liberating someone from the oppressive bonds of sexless marriage to a jerk…)
But really cheating just all boils down to – ego kibbles. Cheaters need ego kibbles. Lots and lots of kibbles. Shrinks call ego kibbles "narcissistic supply," but I prefer to think in terms of Narcissist Ego Chow. Cheaters need to feed. They need lots and lots of validation that they're special, sexy, and understood by only a special chosen few. Problem is, ego kibbles are not very sating, and so they always need more. Part of that problem is the cheater – they've got a hole in their soul where empathy and connection should be. So, a person can shovel ego kibbles at the cheater, but they don't fill up.
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April 28, 2012 by Chump Lady
Cheating is a profoundly narcissistic act. (Of course, cheaters don't see it that way. Usually they cast it as selflessly liberating someone from the oppressive bonds of sexless marriage to a jerk…)
But really cheating just all boils down to – ego kibbles. Cheaters need ego kibbles. Lots and lots of kibbles. Shrinks call ego kibbles "narcissistic supply," but I prefer to think in terms of Narcissist Ego Chow. Cheaters need to feed. They need lots and lots of validation that they're special, sexy, and understood by only a special chosen few. Problem is, ego kibbles are not very sating, and so they always need more. Part of that problem is the cheater – they've got a hole in their soul where empathy and connection should be. So, a person can shovel ego kibbles at the cheater, but they don't fill up.
(read the rest here)
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