Husband 30, me 35. Married less than 3 years. No kids.
A few months ago I posted a thread re: issues of my semi sex deprived marriage and finally figured out that my H was not interested in having sex with me anymore because he has a porn addiction. He first told me he'd quit, instantly that week he initiated sex more often because he had the needs. I no longer initiate sex because of fear with rejections from him in the past. I gave more bj in hope to save our marriage and tried to get the sex going again. Then lately he's showing no signs of needs again, so I know he's back on his computer.
I brought it up tonight and H said he understand and he'll try to stop. I know many members here have asked me to just pull the plug, but deep down I really wish I can trust him...
Suggestions anyone?
Also, even when he was no longer looking online for that month or so, sex still felt like a chore for him. At least that's how I feel. Is that normal? I no longer feel the connection that I got when we had those real sex (lust) or what I would consider "making love" during the first year or 2 of our relationship... It seems like sex is just... sex without feelings. I tried to get him to do it at different places, different position... that seems to just kill the mood for him. He's still most comfortable with his 1,2 positions in bed -_- (he would want it everywhere during the first few months of our relationship)
Obviously I'm back starting a new thread because I'm back where I was, feeling horrible again as a woman who have a startup biz and work as hard as I could to look good everyday. And now with the added lack of connection...
A few months ago I posted a thread re: issues of my semi sex deprived marriage and finally figured out that my H was not interested in having sex with me anymore because he has a porn addiction. He first told me he'd quit, instantly that week he initiated sex more often because he had the needs. I no longer initiate sex because of fear with rejections from him in the past. I gave more bj in hope to save our marriage and tried to get the sex going again. Then lately he's showing no signs of needs again, so I know he's back on his computer.
I brought it up tonight and H said he understand and he'll try to stop. I know many members here have asked me to just pull the plug, but deep down I really wish I can trust him...
Suggestions anyone?
Also, even when he was no longer looking online for that month or so, sex still felt like a chore for him. At least that's how I feel. Is that normal? I no longer feel the connection that I got when we had those real sex (lust) or what I would consider "making love" during the first year or 2 of our relationship... It seems like sex is just... sex without feelings. I tried to get him to do it at different places, different position... that seems to just kill the mood for him. He's still most comfortable with his 1,2 positions in bed -_- (he would want it everywhere during the first few months of our relationship)
Obviously I'm back starting a new thread because I'm back where I was, feeling horrible again as a woman who have a startup biz and work as hard as I could to look good everyday. And now with the added lack of connection...
Put the internet to work for you.
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