Hello Everyone,
I have posted before and you all have given me some wonderful advice. I have started seeing a counselor for myself. Anyways onto my question my husband and I have been in trouble with the marriage for quite some time do to lack of time, which has caused distance and issues for us.
But my question today is he took a new job last fall as a college instructor and graduation is today. Now be it for his students, but it is a big deal, it is his first one to where he also has to wear a robe and all. He has been talking about it for the last week or so. And I just was surprised that he never asked me or invited me to be there.
I don't feel I should have had to ask if I could go. I don't know this for a fact but I could just about bet he has invited other family members of his. I didn't bring it up to him because I know he would have just have thrown it on me the same way he does about when he shows up late all the time and tells me if I want to know where he was I need to ask him. But if I'm not home it's 100 questions and a complete double standard.
Anyways am I making a big deal out of nothing really? I just feel hurt. I feel like he no longer shares anything in his life with me big or small. I mean I was by his side helping him when he got this job and also when it was really hard and he didn't know if he could do it but now I feel like he doesn't want me around him, sort of like he basically saying "I'm ashamed of you" or your not welcome.
If he did invite other family I don't know what he's going to tell them, he will probably tell them "oh she didn't want to come" but eventually it will come out that he didn't invite me, I guess to me either way how does it look for him when his wife isn't there and he chose it be that way.
Sorry I'm rambling, anyways thoughts...
I have posted before and you all have given me some wonderful advice. I have started seeing a counselor for myself. Anyways onto my question my husband and I have been in trouble with the marriage for quite some time do to lack of time, which has caused distance and issues for us.
But my question today is he took a new job last fall as a college instructor and graduation is today. Now be it for his students, but it is a big deal, it is his first one to where he also has to wear a robe and all. He has been talking about it for the last week or so. And I just was surprised that he never asked me or invited me to be there.
I don't feel I should have had to ask if I could go. I don't know this for a fact but I could just about bet he has invited other family members of his. I didn't bring it up to him because I know he would have just have thrown it on me the same way he does about when he shows up late all the time and tells me if I want to know where he was I need to ask him. But if I'm not home it's 100 questions and a complete double standard.
Anyways am I making a big deal out of nothing really? I just feel hurt. I feel like he no longer shares anything in his life with me big or small. I mean I was by his side helping him when he got this job and also when it was really hard and he didn't know if he could do it but now I feel like he doesn't want me around him, sort of like he basically saying "I'm ashamed of you" or your not welcome.
If he did invite other family I don't know what he's going to tell them, he will probably tell them "oh she didn't want to come" but eventually it will come out that he didn't invite me, I guess to me either way how does it look for him when his wife isn't there and he chose it be that way.
Sorry I'm rambling, anyways thoughts...
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