So I have a question, how many people out there , men and women have ever thought about or participated in a "rape fantasy" ?
http://ift.tt/1Hv8A16
This article is 5 years old , but still makes some interesting points. The reason I am posting this is because I am currently in a dominant / submissive relationship , its been the most amazing, healthy, loving and truly exciting experience of my life. We have explored many different concepts and about a week or so ago she told me she needed to tell me something.:scratchhead: She proceeded to tell me she has never felt closer to another person in her life, and she trusted me completely( which was always an issue for her) she proceeded to tell me that lately she has been thinking about lately, actually she has become consumed with the idea of me taking complete and total control of her and playing out a rape fantasy with her ..
Now as a man I can honestly say this concept scares the living you know what out of me... but she becomes insanely aroused at this idea, she says she just wants me to grab her , ignore her cries , ignore her saying the word no and just take her...
I was brought up to cherish, love and respect women , being raised by a single mom and having a sister , I pride myself on that, so i learned all about " no means no" but now this woman who i trust with my life, who i love more than i have ever loved another before, this woman who i truly respect and admire is telling me that what turns her on more than anything ( in her words) is " that sometimes no means yes".
This is all mind boggling for me and her... she can't understand why is turns her on as much as it does, she keeps saying that me needing to take whats mine , and stopping at nothing drives her wild.. So we have talked and talked about it , but we haven't quite yet gone through with it and earlier today I mentioned that I want to take her to a place where we can be alone , a huge house that's been in my family for years, and i said i wanted us to be alone there , and then she said "the idea of being in a big house, trying to hide scares me a bit that scares me a lot actually " I was just feeding off something she was saying previously, and then she said " is this too much, maybe it too much"
Amazing to me that she would say that because SHE is the one who brought this up to begin with, i would never in my life EVER mention the R word ( rape fantasy ) to anyone , and she mentioned it to me, and became SO very excited about this idea, i just want to love her, make her happy, make her feel desired, make her feel excited and i guess its still very new to both her and I, so we are learning the boundaries.
In saying that i ask this>> didn't any boundaries / walls crash down when she mentioned this idea? , she is the one who has become consumed with this rape fantasy, and i have gone along with it to make her feel aroused , to keep her excited, So I think when she mentioned it that many "boundaries" went out the window.. any thoughts , idea's suggestions ?
Yes i know we need a safe word , i was thinking something like
" supercalafragilistiexpealidocious" but she seems to think that will take too long for her to say :scratchhead:
http://ift.tt/1Hv8A16
This article is 5 years old , but still makes some interesting points. The reason I am posting this is because I am currently in a dominant / submissive relationship , its been the most amazing, healthy, loving and truly exciting experience of my life. We have explored many different concepts and about a week or so ago she told me she needed to tell me something.:scratchhead: She proceeded to tell me she has never felt closer to another person in her life, and she trusted me completely( which was always an issue for her) she proceeded to tell me that lately she has been thinking about lately, actually she has become consumed with the idea of me taking complete and total control of her and playing out a rape fantasy with her ..
Now as a man I can honestly say this concept scares the living you know what out of me... but she becomes insanely aroused at this idea, she says she just wants me to grab her , ignore her cries , ignore her saying the word no and just take her...
I was brought up to cherish, love and respect women , being raised by a single mom and having a sister , I pride myself on that, so i learned all about " no means no" but now this woman who i trust with my life, who i love more than i have ever loved another before, this woman who i truly respect and admire is telling me that what turns her on more than anything ( in her words) is " that sometimes no means yes".
This is all mind boggling for me and her... she can't understand why is turns her on as much as it does, she keeps saying that me needing to take whats mine , and stopping at nothing drives her wild.. So we have talked and talked about it , but we haven't quite yet gone through with it and earlier today I mentioned that I want to take her to a place where we can be alone , a huge house that's been in my family for years, and i said i wanted us to be alone there , and then she said "the idea of being in a big house, trying to hide scares me a bit that scares me a lot actually " I was just feeding off something she was saying previously, and then she said " is this too much, maybe it too much"
Amazing to me that she would say that because SHE is the one who brought this up to begin with, i would never in my life EVER mention the R word ( rape fantasy ) to anyone , and she mentioned it to me, and became SO very excited about this idea, i just want to love her, make her happy, make her feel desired, make her feel excited and i guess its still very new to both her and I, so we are learning the boundaries.
In saying that i ask this>> didn't any boundaries / walls crash down when she mentioned this idea? , she is the one who has become consumed with this rape fantasy, and i have gone along with it to make her feel aroused , to keep her excited, So I think when she mentioned it that many "boundaries" went out the window.. any thoughts , idea's suggestions ?
Yes i know we need a safe word , i was thinking something like
" supercalafragilistiexpealidocious" but she seems to think that will take too long for her to say :scratchhead:
Put the internet to work for you.
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