Hi, I need some advice, or any experiences please.
I am 32 years old, have been with my husband for 13 years, married for 6. We have a 3 year old girl.
I have been having feeling recently about leaving my husband. I love him as a person, but not sexually anymore. He is a fab dad and we do lead a good-ish life. We seem to have lost the connection and spark we use to have, he doesn't seem to get me or understand me anymore. I feel bored in the marriage. I feel we are more friends, who speak now and again.
After I had my little girl, I suffered with PND and was very low for a year or so, he did stand by me during this time. I stopped drinking for a year and half and was put on tablets. When I turned 30, something changed me. I felt better about myself, I got a cleaning job and lost a lot of the weight and felt good about myself. I started to go out more and got some attention from men (which was a confidence boost).
More recently I had a night away with some work friends, got drunk and ended up meeting a fella who I seemed to have a instant connection with, he said the same too. We shared a few good kisses, dance stupid together and had a fab time laughing and joking. He asked me to be his friend on facebook, which I accepted. During the following days, I messaged him (he is also married) we chatted, flirted and just had some banter, which I seem to have lost with my husband. I asked him to meet me, which he declined, then a few days later after I stopped messaging him, he messaged me again. We again flirted, things got heated ect. We arranged to meet up for one night, but the days following, I realised this wasn't the best idea so we decided not to. I didn't want to be that person.
I am not happy in my marriage, and for some time, I did think that having a one night thing with another man might get it out of my system, and make me decide once and for all how I truly feel.
I keep thinking, after meeting this guy was it just the excitement of kissing another man, or if we did have a connection that was more than sexual. He said the same also. I think I just enjoyed him making me laugh, something my husband hasn't done for ages.
I don't want to hurt my family, I cant really afford to live alone, neither can he, I sometimes think its just easier to stay together and , I think of my little girl, and I don't want to string my husband along, but I don't want to feel like this in 10 years time.
Please help
I am 32 years old, have been with my husband for 13 years, married for 6. We have a 3 year old girl.
I have been having feeling recently about leaving my husband. I love him as a person, but not sexually anymore. He is a fab dad and we do lead a good-ish life. We seem to have lost the connection and spark we use to have, he doesn't seem to get me or understand me anymore. I feel bored in the marriage. I feel we are more friends, who speak now and again.
After I had my little girl, I suffered with PND and was very low for a year or so, he did stand by me during this time. I stopped drinking for a year and half and was put on tablets. When I turned 30, something changed me. I felt better about myself, I got a cleaning job and lost a lot of the weight and felt good about myself. I started to go out more and got some attention from men (which was a confidence boost).
More recently I had a night away with some work friends, got drunk and ended up meeting a fella who I seemed to have a instant connection with, he said the same too. We shared a few good kisses, dance stupid together and had a fab time laughing and joking. He asked me to be his friend on facebook, which I accepted. During the following days, I messaged him (he is also married) we chatted, flirted and just had some banter, which I seem to have lost with my husband. I asked him to meet me, which he declined, then a few days later after I stopped messaging him, he messaged me again. We again flirted, things got heated ect. We arranged to meet up for one night, but the days following, I realised this wasn't the best idea so we decided not to. I didn't want to be that person.
I am not happy in my marriage, and for some time, I did think that having a one night thing with another man might get it out of my system, and make me decide once and for all how I truly feel.
I keep thinking, after meeting this guy was it just the excitement of kissing another man, or if we did have a connection that was more than sexual. He said the same also. I think I just enjoyed him making me laugh, something my husband hasn't done for ages.
I don't want to hurt my family, I cant really afford to live alone, neither can he, I sometimes think its just easier to stay together and , I think of my little girl, and I don't want to string my husband along, but I don't want to feel like this in 10 years time.
Please help
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