As you may or may not know, for the last couple years I have really been trying to figure out my wife in regards to sex. I have recorded when we have sex and rate it on a scale of 1 - 5. I keep track of her periods and what dates correspond to the dates and quality of sex. This is just a small part of what I do.
Also, if you may remember, in the past I have had some anger issues. I have started to see a trend as to why I get angry.
Once a month or so (sometimes related to her period) my wife starts saying stupid, inflammatory, out of character things to me. For example, this past weekend we're walking up to our 16 year old daughters lacrosse game and I put on some ear muffs. She looks at me and says "you look so old." I would NEVER say that to my wife. I kind of laughed it off and went to the game. Later that night I was playing with her hugging and teasing with some sex talk, hoping to get a BJ because she's on her period and she gets all upset telling me how annoying I am and that all I do is talk about sex. (Not true at all, just mentioned something only that day)
Instead of getting upset, I simply let her stew (for whatever reason) and just thought about why she gets like this. For the next few days I just let her be. She was clearly upset, cleaning without stop, has not touched me for days and just goes around all day talking small talk.
You might think I'm being passive aggressive, but I'm really not trying to do that. I'm just giving her space and acting in a way that will not piss her off. However, if I mention anything about what she said, she will turn it on me and try to get me upset. Arguing with her is completely pointless. I have tried in the past 23 years and I get nowhere. So, I just give her space. As the days go by, she will NOT touch me at all. Finally, we have sex and it's wonderful, steamy, passionate, like the first time kind of sex.
I'm not complaining about the sex but it's almost as if she needs to play this little game, pushing me to the edge to see if I get upset. If I don't get upset and survive her PA mood, I get awesome sex. If I get upset, it all crumbles to the ground and I have to build up her trust again.
Does this sound strange to anyone but me??
Also, if you may remember, in the past I have had some anger issues. I have started to see a trend as to why I get angry.
Once a month or so (sometimes related to her period) my wife starts saying stupid, inflammatory, out of character things to me. For example, this past weekend we're walking up to our 16 year old daughters lacrosse game and I put on some ear muffs. She looks at me and says "you look so old." I would NEVER say that to my wife. I kind of laughed it off and went to the game. Later that night I was playing with her hugging and teasing with some sex talk, hoping to get a BJ because she's on her period and she gets all upset telling me how annoying I am and that all I do is talk about sex. (Not true at all, just mentioned something only that day)
Instead of getting upset, I simply let her stew (for whatever reason) and just thought about why she gets like this. For the next few days I just let her be. She was clearly upset, cleaning without stop, has not touched me for days and just goes around all day talking small talk.
You might think I'm being passive aggressive, but I'm really not trying to do that. I'm just giving her space and acting in a way that will not piss her off. However, if I mention anything about what she said, she will turn it on me and try to get me upset. Arguing with her is completely pointless. I have tried in the past 23 years and I get nowhere. So, I just give her space. As the days go by, she will NOT touch me at all. Finally, we have sex and it's wonderful, steamy, passionate, like the first time kind of sex.
I'm not complaining about the sex but it's almost as if she needs to play this little game, pushing me to the edge to see if I get upset. If I don't get upset and survive her PA mood, I get awesome sex. If I get upset, it all crumbles to the ground and I have to build up her trust again.
Does this sound strange to anyone but me??
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