This may be long winded but anyone who takes the time to read and offer me some advice will be hugely appreciated.
So basically me and my girlfriend have been together for three years now, it took us a while to get going but once we did our relationship was perfect we had so much fun, we did things, travelled places, the sex was great and we were both really happy with one another. All was fine until when we went to a festival together I got told about her kissing another guy and her friends were the ones that told me about it, she didn't actually tell me herself it happened on the Saturday night and I found out by accident on the Monday back at sixth form, that was great! Ever since then i've found it incredibly hard to trust her and speak to her about how i feel about it as it just makes me angry and upset when I think about it. To this day she's never really apologised about it and I don't think I've ever really let it go. Her friends think its funny to make jokes about it sometimes and that really gets to me as she doesn't seem to think its a problem. Anyway moving on for about the la st 6 months things have gone really down hill. We arguing almost consistently, I feel as if she doesn't enjoy my company one bit as she is never coming up with things to do or places to go like she used to. On my behalf I haven't been the same either. The sex life has gone from something incredible to something that is partially non-existent and she even went as far to tell me that she never actually enjoyed any of the things we did, but that she felt as though she had to do it, when I never put any pressure on her to do anything. Which makes me feel as though everything I thought we liked is a lie. Neither of us seem to make the effort and quite a few times we have both resorted to saying some very insulting things to one another and I think that the strain on our relationship has reached a maximum. We've tried to speak about things but we just blame each other for everything and the only was she will go back to how she was, which by the way she says its not who she really is, is if I change and make all the effort to restore what we once had as apparetly its all my fault. I'll admit I've said some pretty horrible things at times but I've always tried to show her that I love her and would do anything for her. Yet she has never really shown me the same thing and even now she doesn't she doesn't respond to texts very often she seems to be more interested in her friends latest shag than whats going on in our own relationship. I'm fed up of getting the whole blame and her not taking any responsibility for her actions. It's typical of societies stereotypes that the male has to be the one to not show any emotion and make all of the romantic effort and be the one to force things. I don't know how I can get her to see that we both need to put in the effort otherwise this isn't going to work, it can't be all one side, all give and no take yet that's completely how I feel about it and she can't seem to get her head around that. It's hurting me yet all I ever hear is how badly I'm hurting her and its all my doing. I feel as though I'm unwanted and don't really know what to say or do just looking for some advice to try and make this relationship work as I really don't want it to end.
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