afternoon
Ive got a bit of a weird situation on my hands and unsure what to do to be honest. Over the last few years our marriage has had a few ups and downs,its unavoidable i know! Ive had a few jobs and we have had to change our routines a few times. We have three kids but we have never been poor etc,just been awkward.
Couple of weeks ago i got made redundant..but without the pay as i hadnt served there long enough. i did get another on two days after and startted the week after!My wife was okay for a couple of days but then started to get stressed.which is fair enough. Flip to this week she wants a seperation, we argued thursday and i havent returned till yesterday afternoon. I basically went to get another job that would give me enough to pay for our children if i was sent packing,but a little underhanded so obviously she was pissed right off when a letter came through,it was just protecting our unit if i had to leave
My wife has suffered from some depression over the years even before she met me. Last year she was prescribed tablets which helped her immensely, made her more positive and generally just balanced which is good for anyone! I think maybe she needed more support from me before that moment but it was nice. Now according to her,the depression was always my fault from the start which is not true as she had it before me which she even said,but literally our existence is my doing
Few weeks ago she stopped taking the tablets which i wasnt aware of, she said during our arguement they made her feel ill and why should she take them just to be nice to her husband! She is under an illusion thats why i think they are good for her! I disagree its just for balance!
Now she simply wont listen,we have three children..instead of working through she has surrendered,although what shes proposing will literally destroy all our lives and make us all worse off emotionally and financially.
Shes not told anyone far as im aware either,theres no other man im 99.9% sure of that also.
What she has done is pack my stuff but just clothes nothing else,told the kids we have some problems which is fair enough. She had to work nights this weekend so asked me to come back to look after the children. But not today as she has someone else to do it which im not even allowed to know apparently. I could sleep in the bed and use the house as normal
Her demands are i have the kids every other weekend, she also wants no money.
Now i know my wife pretty well,its out of character,even an angry character that switched off emotions,it doesnt settle well.
Either her coming off these tablets has just stressed her out somehow, or the problems have made her crumble, but we are close to the time where i will have to find elsewhere to live if she does not return,once that happens,even if she has a realization of whats happening,im not sure we could reverse it easy,she wont listen she simply wont pay attention, and she has told noone,not even her parents which is weird because she would tell them probably first!
Ive got a bit of a weird situation on my hands and unsure what to do to be honest. Over the last few years our marriage has had a few ups and downs,its unavoidable i know! Ive had a few jobs and we have had to change our routines a few times. We have three kids but we have never been poor etc,just been awkward.
Couple of weeks ago i got made redundant..but without the pay as i hadnt served there long enough. i did get another on two days after and startted the week after!My wife was okay for a couple of days but then started to get stressed.which is fair enough. Flip to this week she wants a seperation, we argued thursday and i havent returned till yesterday afternoon. I basically went to get another job that would give me enough to pay for our children if i was sent packing,but a little underhanded so obviously she was pissed right off when a letter came through,it was just protecting our unit if i had to leave
My wife has suffered from some depression over the years even before she met me. Last year she was prescribed tablets which helped her immensely, made her more positive and generally just balanced which is good for anyone! I think maybe she needed more support from me before that moment but it was nice. Now according to her,the depression was always my fault from the start which is not true as she had it before me which she even said,but literally our existence is my doing
Few weeks ago she stopped taking the tablets which i wasnt aware of, she said during our arguement they made her feel ill and why should she take them just to be nice to her husband! She is under an illusion thats why i think they are good for her! I disagree its just for balance!
Now she simply wont listen,we have three children..instead of working through she has surrendered,although what shes proposing will literally destroy all our lives and make us all worse off emotionally and financially.
Shes not told anyone far as im aware either,theres no other man im 99.9% sure of that also.
What she has done is pack my stuff but just clothes nothing else,told the kids we have some problems which is fair enough. She had to work nights this weekend so asked me to come back to look after the children. But not today as she has someone else to do it which im not even allowed to know apparently. I could sleep in the bed and use the house as normal
Her demands are i have the kids every other weekend, she also wants no money.
Now i know my wife pretty well,its out of character,even an angry character that switched off emotions,it doesnt settle well.
Either her coming off these tablets has just stressed her out somehow, or the problems have made her crumble, but we are close to the time where i will have to find elsewhere to live if she does not return,once that happens,even if she has a realization of whats happening,im not sure we could reverse it easy,she wont listen she simply wont pay attention, and she has told noone,not even her parents which is weird because she would tell them probably first!
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