I have been dating a guy since November. Things are great and we are looking to make it official soon. He doesn't have a child. However, it took him 2 months to tell me he has a goddaughter from his previous relationship and essentially acted as dad for over 3 years and watched her grow up (she is now 5). I'm finding that even though she isn't his, he loves her like his own. This is not a problem, however I have an issue with the ex (who btw cheated on him repeatedly). She calls him every 2-3 days. He says that it's only about the child and tries to keep diplomatic about it, keeps conversations short etc however I feel like she may have different intentions and the "keeping diplomatic" isn't really done on her side. For example, last week we took a trip to Liverpool and she called when he was on the train. She asked him where he was, where he was going etc. And I was sitting next to him thinking "well, this conversation isn't about the child?!" She isn't happy that he is seeing someone else (why that's her business I don't know). Also, he says she doesn't have a lot of people to talk to, and she gets lonely sometimes (really not his problem).
I feel like she uses the goddaughter as an excuse for her to call him.
I did explain to him that I didn't like the idea that she is still so involved, even though he has insisted that she isn't a threat to me. He has told his ex that if she is to call him, it needs to be strictly about the goddaughter, nothing else, what is going on in his personal life is irrelevant, and she didn't take to kindly to it, since you can't "just turn off someone who was there for 3 years". I obviously want him to talk to his goddaughter and be in her life, but his ex acts like he still owes her something.
I'm just not too sure about how to deal with the situation.
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