This could turn into a long post if I went into the deets so I'm gonna try and keep it short.
- Been with bf just over three years
- Found out about six months in that he has issues sexually. I wouldn't go as far as to say he was asexual, but he had a sort of phobia of it.
- Had sex therapy as a couple. Sort of worked. We could have sex which was a plus but it was awful and forced. Felt like I was sleeping with a mannequin.
- As time went on I gave up trying. I lost the honeymoon style lust and the lack of sex just bothered me less.
Present: We haven't had sex or even done anything intimate in maybe 18 months. This is not his fault - he has offered. His offerings aren't exactly a turn on though - "I will if you want to...". I feel I have turned my sexual attraction of him off for so long that I've lost it. I can't imagine having sex with him anymore. It feels weird.
This worries me because I do love him. I love sex, and in this relationship I chose love over sex, but I feel I've been robbed on my sexuality and I can't get it back. I DO think about sex and get turned on pretty much all the time - but never because of him anymore.
How can I find him sexually attractive again? :/
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