This is a follow up post to the thread 'should I take the hint?'
I've dreaded bringing up this conversation for the longest time, but today i just had to grow some balls and ask where I stood. So i called him, I asked how he was, we laughed a little bit and then I got straight to the point. I asked why we've drifted lately. At first he pretended he hadn't noticed and within no time he admitted he had noticed.
He asked why I thought we had drifted and I said 'one minute we were we talking all the time, went on a few dates and the next minute it fizzled out.' He said he thought we got on really well, we have a laugh but something was missing and we didn't do 'couple thing's'. Firstly I know he was referring to a spark and even last week when I saw him he was staring at me intensely and initiating 'couple thing's' like putting his arm around me etc..I didn't reject any of it. It was nothing like when I'm with my other friends. There is no way I imagined any of that. I think he was referring to how I responded to his actions more than anything and the fact I wasn't particularly affectionate - however that's just how I am until I'm comfortable.
I asked him if he's saying he just wants to be friends and he said it was like one person liked the other person more and it seemed like we were getting to know each other as friends.
we've never discussed feelings before, so the fact he mentioned one person liking the other more baffles me and my friend thinks he's referring to himself.
I know he probably has no clue how I feel because no guy has been able to read me. Part of the reason for me calling is because I know I'm a shy and awkward person and I wanted to address the fact it takes me a while to get comfortable and tell him how I felt. however he threw me off so I didn't get a chance to. I did however tell him I enjoyed his company and thought we were moving towards a relationship, but obviously not.
He said maybe we were going at two different paces which I know is referring to the fact we've been on many dates, haven't kissed and when he tried to initiate I went all shy. So i knew he would feel like he was being left out in the cold. I didn't mean to respond that way, but it takes me time to get comfortable.
I don't know how to feel. At first I was very upset. However he didn't come right out and say he wants to be friends. I know where I have gone wrong in all of this, I wish I let him know the deal from before, but I thought he understood how shy I actually am. I know he's probably looking at things and thinking im not interested because my actions show otherwise or maybe he just does want to be friends..my friends think he's probably put in the effort and is waiting to see what i'm going to do and he clearly likes me. She thinks I should tell him about my shyness / awkwardness and explain how I feel.
However I think I should leave it as it is. I mean what if that isn't the case at all and she's wrong. What are your thoughts?
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