I will start with the fact that I have to put myself back on the market after an LTR. I have NEVER been real good at hitting on women, I am very picky, not that I require a model, but a certain type of smart cute personality. Very, very hard to describe for me but I know I can go through an entire club and see countless women that I feel are VERY physically attractive, yet I don't want to date them.
What is odd is I much prefer to just hear any prospect talk and move. It is so strange but I can tell so much just by watching how a woman walks and moves, jogging is a biggy and not even sure why.
Anyway, I have to admit, I seem to find some game when I see someone I really like but many are out of my league or I just don't have the personality to approach. My personality is very laid back, casual, seemingly non-aware. When I see several guys trying to hit on a woman, I am rarely interested in playing the game, unless I have already made contact and realize she is my type because she does not go for deadbeats.
What REALLY sucks is I have plenty of friends and I am sure they would all like to hook me up but I can almost guarantee that anyone 'friend' they bring by will just not be my type. I think a lot has to do with the fact that many of my friends are (trying to say nicely) not as intelligent and I require that intellect.
I have friends that are modelish. Very nice looking. I know I have them beat in about every category but looks. However, looks and smooth talking seems to be the norm to pull wool....
I am 6ft, 195, redish blonde hair, athletic, smart. I have never been that guy to approach a table of girls but guaranteed, if I do, the most annoying one will try to take me home.
I have tried online stuff but I honestly do not think my looks alone win some women over. I am not bad looking, just not WOW. My humor, personality, and confidence seem to need a chance to gain ground.
So.....Ladies, could you tell me how I might approach this? I feel like an idiot most times going into a club. Usually the one I might talk to would look a little nervous as well (same boat) and sort of not as involved with the big conversation.
What is odd is I much prefer to just hear any prospect talk and move. It is so strange but I can tell so much just by watching how a woman walks and moves, jogging is a biggy and not even sure why.
Anyway, I have to admit, I seem to find some game when I see someone I really like but many are out of my league or I just don't have the personality to approach. My personality is very laid back, casual, seemingly non-aware. When I see several guys trying to hit on a woman, I am rarely interested in playing the game, unless I have already made contact and realize she is my type because she does not go for deadbeats.
What REALLY sucks is I have plenty of friends and I am sure they would all like to hook me up but I can almost guarantee that anyone 'friend' they bring by will just not be my type. I think a lot has to do with the fact that many of my friends are (trying to say nicely) not as intelligent and I require that intellect.
I have friends that are modelish. Very nice looking. I know I have them beat in about every category but looks. However, looks and smooth talking seems to be the norm to pull wool....
I am 6ft, 195, redish blonde hair, athletic, smart. I have never been that guy to approach a table of girls but guaranteed, if I do, the most annoying one will try to take me home.
I have tried online stuff but I honestly do not think my looks alone win some women over. I am not bad looking, just not WOW. My humor, personality, and confidence seem to need a chance to gain ground.
So.....Ladies, could you tell me how I might approach this? I feel like an idiot most times going into a club. Usually the one I might talk to would look a little nervous as well (same boat) and sort of not as involved with the big conversation.
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