Okay this is going to sound wierd but I fantasize about my spouse getting aroused by other women when I (you know what) alone. I ofcourse do not want him in real life to feel this or think about other women that way... I oftentimes visualize him getting a lapdance by a sexy girl (in the past he got one for his bachelor party and i didnt like it and we got into a big fight cause he lied to me about it...(dont know if this is a common thing) Sometimes I think something is wrong with me...Are these thoughts wierd, how can I stop?
Another example of an instance when we got into a fight over other women:
Once my spouse and I were out drinking with friends, he got tipsy, we came home, I went to bed...He stayed awake drinking more with his friends in our house. He came to bed at 4am....! Is this common once in a while? He is in his 30s now.... he started talking about having sex with actresses with his friends.... He admits it was disrespectful and apologized...also said he will not talk like that again...but made it out like I am overreacting... and says ''all men think like this about hot women and fantatise about them once in a while outloud with their friends, they just dont say it in front of their spouse''....this makes me think he will continue to talk this way with his friends if he is drunk enough and I am not within earshot. I don't know how to feel secure enough that this kind of talk doesnt matter. i feel sooo repulsed and disrespected when I hear my husband wanting to have sex with a stranger. I fear I am overacting and need to take a chill pill. I do nt know if I have insecurity problems...DOESNT HIS BEHAVIOR SHOW LACK OF CARE OR RESPECT FOR ME OR IS THIS A SMALL THING AND I SHOULD LET IT GO. AND WHY THE HELL AM I FANTASIZING ABOUT WHAT I LEAST WANT HAPPENED IN REAL LIFE?! Confused....
Another example of an instance when we got into a fight over other women:
Once my spouse and I were out drinking with friends, he got tipsy, we came home, I went to bed...He stayed awake drinking more with his friends in our house. He came to bed at 4am....! Is this common once in a while? He is in his 30s now.... he started talking about having sex with actresses with his friends.... He admits it was disrespectful and apologized...also said he will not talk like that again...but made it out like I am overreacting... and says ''all men think like this about hot women and fantatise about them once in a while outloud with their friends, they just dont say it in front of their spouse''....this makes me think he will continue to talk this way with his friends if he is drunk enough and I am not within earshot. I don't know how to feel secure enough that this kind of talk doesnt matter. i feel sooo repulsed and disrespected when I hear my husband wanting to have sex with a stranger. I fear I am overacting and need to take a chill pill. I do nt know if I have insecurity problems...DOESNT HIS BEHAVIOR SHOW LACK OF CARE OR RESPECT FOR ME OR IS THIS A SMALL THING AND I SHOULD LET IT GO. AND WHY THE HELL AM I FANTASIZING ABOUT WHAT I LEAST WANT HAPPENED IN REAL LIFE?! Confused....
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