background:
I am 31 years old she is 28, this is my second marriage and we have been married for five years. We have a four year old child.
I am a fairly successful person and very ambitious and goal driven, constantly working and trying to always improve my career and education to better my salary so that I can better provide for my family. She is the opposite, talks about wanting to better herself but in the seven years total that we have been together, she has only been employed 3 years, relying on me to pay all the bills so she could stay home with our child. (not that this is a bad thing, but it is the opposite of what we had discussed when first getting together) Now our child is old enough to go to school and she says she wants to finally start doing something to improve herself (something she has said before) but isn't doing anything to show that she is even trying to improve (not enrolling in school or looking for a better job). she constantly relies on the excuse that she doesn't know what she wants to do so she doesn't attempt anything or that she is scared to get out of her comfort zone.
we have been through infidelity, once with her seeing someone else and once with me seeing someone else. then there has been emotional infidelity, where she has had conversations with an ex boyfriend that went way further than conversations should go, but nothing physical came out of it. She says that she doesn't want anyone else and that it will never happen again.
between the infidelity and the constant struggle of being the only person willing to work to provide for this family, I am thinking more and more about divorce.
I guess I am just wondering if this is reason enough to call it quits or am I just stressed out and should give her a little more time to see if she will finally do something to show she is willing to change.
I am 31 years old she is 28, this is my second marriage and we have been married for five years. We have a four year old child.
I am a fairly successful person and very ambitious and goal driven, constantly working and trying to always improve my career and education to better my salary so that I can better provide for my family. She is the opposite, talks about wanting to better herself but in the seven years total that we have been together, she has only been employed 3 years, relying on me to pay all the bills so she could stay home with our child. (not that this is a bad thing, but it is the opposite of what we had discussed when first getting together) Now our child is old enough to go to school and she says she wants to finally start doing something to improve herself (something she has said before) but isn't doing anything to show that she is even trying to improve (not enrolling in school or looking for a better job). she constantly relies on the excuse that she doesn't know what she wants to do so she doesn't attempt anything or that she is scared to get out of her comfort zone.
we have been through infidelity, once with her seeing someone else and once with me seeing someone else. then there has been emotional infidelity, where she has had conversations with an ex boyfriend that went way further than conversations should go, but nothing physical came out of it. She says that she doesn't want anyone else and that it will never happen again.
between the infidelity and the constant struggle of being the only person willing to work to provide for this family, I am thinking more and more about divorce.
I guess I am just wondering if this is reason enough to call it quits or am I just stressed out and should give her a little more time to see if she will finally do something to show she is willing to change.
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