Hi this is my first post and would be grateful for any help or feedback.
7 years ago i met what appeared to be a lovely, kind caring man, he made me feel alive, loved and promised he would look after me. Anyway after being together 6 months i moved in with him, moving away from my family and grown up children with hope that i was starting a new life. He himself is divorced with grownup children as well.
Within 2 weeks we were not sleeping in the same bed, he said he was such a light sleeper that any move or noise i made kept him awake, result i ended up sleeping on a sofabed and fool that i am still sleep in seperate beds now, why, because he always insinuated that we would share a bed again eventually, but even though we have invested in new bed etc it has never been so.
I have also found that he is a hypochondriac, any aches and pains are massive, he gets scared over any feelings of ill health, yet 4 years ago i was diagnosed as diabetic and am on daily injections yet this to him is a minor thing, he only worried about my health incase it affects me working and affects our income. We don't have sex anymore as he says he has too much back pain etc. This man has been tested for diabetes, kidney problems, heart problems but all has come out clear, his main problerm is the fact hes overweight, which is my fault as i am not helping him to lose weight, even though he will buy loads of 'treats' and then say i am nagging him for doing so.
I get constantly criticised, i am always wrong, he will find fault in anything i do, he thinks its funny when i lose my temper as he loves to tese and make fun of me { will say hes only playing}, never seems interested in what i tell him. yet on the other hand he tells me he loves me every day, cuddles me and says i am the best thing that has every happened and couldnt manage without me. We have been engaged for 5 years and aprt from asking me and giving me a ring, hes never attempted to make any wedding plans and always makes excuses when i ask him or used to ask him, i dont even bother anymore.
I am now in the process of looking for another job and moving away from him, all this i am doing in secret at present, he has no idea and i feel so alone and would love to know if anyone else has been in the is situation and what they did.
Thx so much for reading x
7 years ago i met what appeared to be a lovely, kind caring man, he made me feel alive, loved and promised he would look after me. Anyway after being together 6 months i moved in with him, moving away from my family and grown up children with hope that i was starting a new life. He himself is divorced with grownup children as well.
Within 2 weeks we were not sleeping in the same bed, he said he was such a light sleeper that any move or noise i made kept him awake, result i ended up sleeping on a sofabed and fool that i am still sleep in seperate beds now, why, because he always insinuated that we would share a bed again eventually, but even though we have invested in new bed etc it has never been so.
I have also found that he is a hypochondriac, any aches and pains are massive, he gets scared over any feelings of ill health, yet 4 years ago i was diagnosed as diabetic and am on daily injections yet this to him is a minor thing, he only worried about my health incase it affects me working and affects our income. We don't have sex anymore as he says he has too much back pain etc. This man has been tested for diabetes, kidney problems, heart problems but all has come out clear, his main problerm is the fact hes overweight, which is my fault as i am not helping him to lose weight, even though he will buy loads of 'treats' and then say i am nagging him for doing so.
I get constantly criticised, i am always wrong, he will find fault in anything i do, he thinks its funny when i lose my temper as he loves to tese and make fun of me { will say hes only playing}, never seems interested in what i tell him. yet on the other hand he tells me he loves me every day, cuddles me and says i am the best thing that has every happened and couldnt manage without me. We have been engaged for 5 years and aprt from asking me and giving me a ring, hes never attempted to make any wedding plans and always makes excuses when i ask him or used to ask him, i dont even bother anymore.
I am now in the process of looking for another job and moving away from him, all this i am doing in secret at present, he has no idea and i feel so alone and would love to know if anyone else has been in the is situation and what they did.
Thx so much for reading x
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