I'm your average 19 year old girl, currently finishing A levels (did an extra year) and so going off to university in september - before anyone jumps to conclusions that is not my main reasoning! my friends are very varied in whether or not they've lost their virginity & nobody has ever made me feel bad about it, they're cool with it & some see it as a good thing, they encourage me to keep it until i "meet the right guy and fall in love" etc etc. For a long time, probably until I hit about 18 I was absolutely terrified of losing my virginity, I wasn't ready & I didn't have a lot of self confidence (I was bullied a lot over things like my appearance). Over the past few years my self confidence has blossomed - no bullying - and my current circles of friends are fantastic, hugely supportive over everything & my best friend is exactly the type of person I can be open with and ask questions about her sexual experiences etc, so it's not like I'm being totally naive.
For quite a while, I've been ready to lose my virginity. I've had a fair few offers but I've always declined because they just weren't the type of person I wanted to sleep with, if it's someone I know then I want it to be meaningful, not an awkward quickie that will mean we never look at each other again. Last year I went to kavos & became very close to losing it, I met a really really nice guy & stuff happened but I told him that at that point I didn't want to lose my virginity, which he was really cool with. I'm now not so precious about it, I'm ready to lose it & I'm wondering whether, if the opportunity arose, I should lose it when I go on holiday this year to Malia, - just to be clear I'm not planning this like I'll select some guy to sleep with, purely if I met a nice guy, which despite the stereotypes isn't actually too difficult. - it's not like I'm desperate to lose it, but it's a label that I feel has too much stigma attached and that I don't feel should play a huge deal in whether or not I lose it, and I'm just at the point in my life where I'm ready, I had a boyfriend a few months ago and genuinely thought I'd lose it to him but was kinda disappointed when he didn't seem to into it..
Now I know some people will go for the "lose it to someone special" approach, but to be honest, I don't feel like that's a huge deal and I don't think I'd regret it, fair enough to some people if thats their situation but it's just not mine.. I kinda wish I had slept with the guy on holiday last year because nobody else has ever made me feel so comfortable being in such an intimate setting, and to me personally that tells me I'm ready..
I just really want a general overview of peoples opinions, and if you got together with somebody who told you they'd lost their virginity on holiday - "girls holiday" or otherwise, would that change your opinion on them? & why? sorry for such a long post!
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