So, my boyfriend and myself have been together for 14 months and have been living with each other for 5. He's 28 (29 in a few months) and I'm 21.
In the beginning we would see each other Fri-Sun (we're both single parents, and this was when our children were with other people - the other parents and their families), and had sex pretty much all the time. We would do other stuff; go out for dinner; drinks; go out with friends; attend events; go to the cinema; and even simple things like shopping etc.
After a few months this having sex almost all day decreased to maybe 2-3 times a day: even when I stayed with him and our kids were there and we were spending time the 4 of us (obviously not while they were in the room).
Since I moved in however, we've had sex less and less. Since April we've had sex 3 times. Now, I have some problems with PCOS and it can cause irregular bleeding, but that doesn't mean I can't have sex at other points in the month.
He works quite long hours 8-8, but on a rotational basis. I can understand him being tired after work, but he gets a week where he is off Tues-Thurs and then Sat-Sun, yet we still don't do anything.
I've tried to initiate it, and nothing happens, so I just stop because I hate feeling rejected. However, when he initiates then it happens, because I want it.
We've always had a very good sex life; we know what each other likes and doesn't like; and there has never been any issues with either of us reaching orgasm (more than once) his friend even got drunk and told me, that in confidence, my boyfriend had told him I was the best he had (not to brag, but we are very compatible - he's dominant and I'm submissive, so it works. A LOT). Personally, neither of us have changed. He has this new job, and I no longer work (looking after the kids and going back to uni in August), but we're the same people. We have the same hobbies, do the same things and look the exact same.
In the past he has slept with a lot of women (I'm the high 30s low 40s or thereabout). He used to see people for a few weeks just to have someone to be with, and would basically have sex a few times, realise they couldn't cope with him being a parent and move on. He also had his fair share of one-night stands, so it's not like he has a libido problem.
He says he is still attracted to me, and loves me, but I can't help but feel put out, especially knowing his past. Does anyone have any advice or suggestions as to why this may be?
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