Ok so my wife and i have been together for 10 years, married for 5. She has always been not very affectionate. You know shes not into the just kissing all the time or saying i love you and whatever so ive gotten use to that. However, its just really starting to bother me. I have no security in our relationship because i receive no validation. I love her with all my heart and i tell her everyday and i just dont understand how if you love someone you can keep those feelings to yourself. She says i love you after i say it to her and all but she never initiates anything. She is the same way with our daughter. Shes 4 and my wife snaps at her a lot and gets irritated easily, same way she does with me. Its almost as if she doesnt know how to express affection.
Now the sex thing, again, its always been a rare thing with her, even when we first met. I dont know why i keep thinking she will change. She goes through spurts where she wants it a lot but for the most part it is once a month. (today we hit the 2 month mark, a new high! : ( ) Today was my birthday, but she was sick cuz she is 2 months pregnant so i knew it was a no go. I brought it up to her about how this is just killing me and i need her to act like she cares. She got mad, said it was the pregnancy hormones and bs. Which yea i can understand but this has been going on for 10 years.
It is just beyond frustrating to be so in love with someone and not have any type of recurrent reciprocation. We only see each other for a combined 16 hours a week on average due to our work schedules. I take a lot of time off though because she begs me to stay with her and she doesnt want me to go. Its just so damn confusing, its mixed vibes all the time. I just need advice on how to proceed with this. Divorce is not an option for me. I just cant keep my sanity when im feeling this way constantly.
Sorry if im rambling, i just couldnt take it anymore and i had to vent it out. I hope someone has gone through something similar or can shed some light on this.
Thanks
Now the sex thing, again, its always been a rare thing with her, even when we first met. I dont know why i keep thinking she will change. She goes through spurts where she wants it a lot but for the most part it is once a month. (today we hit the 2 month mark, a new high! : ( ) Today was my birthday, but she was sick cuz she is 2 months pregnant so i knew it was a no go. I brought it up to her about how this is just killing me and i need her to act like she cares. She got mad, said it was the pregnancy hormones and bs. Which yea i can understand but this has been going on for 10 years.
It is just beyond frustrating to be so in love with someone and not have any type of recurrent reciprocation. We only see each other for a combined 16 hours a week on average due to our work schedules. I take a lot of time off though because she begs me to stay with her and she doesnt want me to go. Its just so damn confusing, its mixed vibes all the time. I just need advice on how to proceed with this. Divorce is not an option for me. I just cant keep my sanity when im feeling this way constantly.
Sorry if im rambling, i just couldnt take it anymore and i had to vent it out. I hope someone has gone through something similar or can shed some light on this.
Thanks
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