I was told this might be a better place to post this.
If a man and woman talk every day, pretty much all day in a private chat (when they are part of a group chat), is there some kind of emotional attachment? There is borderline flirting. Both have significant others.
Simply, does a man invest this much time into a woman he is not somewhat attached to emotionally, or interested in sexually?
Perhaps I need to add more. My husband has been chatting with this woman for about a month and a half now. I have let it go for the most part, but up about a couple weeks ago I got kinda frustrated with him being glued to his phone. He also plays a game on there (which is how they met).
I probably wouldn't have ever known she existed had he not pointed her out to me one night a couple weeks ago. he mentioned she was an attention "*****" always posting new pictures of herself. Only girl in "guild".
He also made comments about how she was nothing but drama (2 things my husbands stays far far away from).
My husband is also not the social type. He is the type to comment here and there, but generally thats it.
Well she was leaving her "guild" and helping a new one. I thought good.. I had noticed that this girl was the reason he was on his phone so much.
He followed her over to the new guild. Says he felt like he owed her (she help him recover his account when it got lost) and because she was nice to him when his dad died. I was the one here with him, ect, she only offered to talk if he needed it.
After I noticed her phone number on his phone, I got really suspisious. Now I have confirmed that it was not a big deal, she had given it to him so he could call her if she was needed during "guild wars"
But before I knew why, I snooped.. This is how I found out that they spend so much time alone in chat. I dont find anything GLARING, but it's just a hunch. Its flirty, only a couple midlely sexy flirts (he made a comment about being behind on her work, to which she commented, thats not the only thing that will be behind me. He responded by calling her a perv. Another comment after she gave him her phone number, he replied " better watch it, Im gonna drunk dial you some day" She responded, "I hope so")
There is a lot of mild "pet names" Favorite mamma bear, mamma bear, among others. No babe or anything like that.
pokes to get each others attention when they have gone a whole 8 hours without speaking (sleep). She also asked him his work schedule.
What I deem as fishing for "interest" such as, am I the only guy you talk to in private, types of things. She replies that he is. He says, I feel special.
Not a lot that has technically stepped over the line YET.
But I asked him to stop talking to her a few days ago, and he got very angry, telling me I was controlling, ect. The fight got so bad that by the end of the night he told me he hated me, and hated living here.
Last night it hit a head. I could see (I could see the texting) that while we were arguing, he was getting shorter and shorter with me (snippy) while talking to her in between.
I finally got angry, and called him out. BUT I lied on one thing because I didnt want him to know I could see the texts. so I told him her BF and I talked (who is also in their guild) and he was not very happy with the flirtatiousness and frequency of them speaking.
His tune changed immediately, he immediately texted and apologized to the BF, saying that he hoped he wasnt offended, and if he wanted him to back off he would, That he and the girl were just friends. This made me a bit furious, because this guy is a stranger, but when I told him it bothered me, he would just get angry with me, tell me I was jealous and over-reacting.
I ended up confessing to him that I hadnt spoken to the guy, and that I had been watching their texts.
he swears he has no feelings for this girl, he was sweet talking with me last night, told me if he was being flirty he didnt mean it. Seemed to have a reasonable explanation for everything.
But my gut is telling me, he isnt being honest with himself about this.
so... Do men invest this much time and it truly is innocent.
I should mention, we have a lot of stressors at home right now. He recently found out his 16 year old child, really isnt his. Im in a custody fight with my ex. My mother in law has overstayed her welcome by at least 6 months now, with no end date in sight, My husband has been working 84 hours a stretch with only a couple days off in between, AND his father (whom he had no contact with over the last 7-9 years) just died a little over a month ago.
Oh forgot to add, the BF ended up texting me a few times. Very not nice texts at all. I apologized to him, for lying. it didnt cause any problems between him and his girl.
But he kept texting me, about losing a friend, that Im a jealous person and basically he hopes he leaves me, on and on.
I showed it to my husband.
basically he just apologized to the BF for the drama. Thats it.
If a man and woman talk every day, pretty much all day in a private chat (when they are part of a group chat), is there some kind of emotional attachment? There is borderline flirting. Both have significant others.
Simply, does a man invest this much time into a woman he is not somewhat attached to emotionally, or interested in sexually?
Perhaps I need to add more. My husband has been chatting with this woman for about a month and a half now. I have let it go for the most part, but up about a couple weeks ago I got kinda frustrated with him being glued to his phone. He also plays a game on there (which is how they met).
I probably wouldn't have ever known she existed had he not pointed her out to me one night a couple weeks ago. he mentioned she was an attention "*****" always posting new pictures of herself. Only girl in "guild".
He also made comments about how she was nothing but drama (2 things my husbands stays far far away from).
My husband is also not the social type. He is the type to comment here and there, but generally thats it.
Well she was leaving her "guild" and helping a new one. I thought good.. I had noticed that this girl was the reason he was on his phone so much.
He followed her over to the new guild. Says he felt like he owed her (she help him recover his account when it got lost) and because she was nice to him when his dad died. I was the one here with him, ect, she only offered to talk if he needed it.
After I noticed her phone number on his phone, I got really suspisious. Now I have confirmed that it was not a big deal, she had given it to him so he could call her if she was needed during "guild wars"
But before I knew why, I snooped.. This is how I found out that they spend so much time alone in chat. I dont find anything GLARING, but it's just a hunch. Its flirty, only a couple midlely sexy flirts (he made a comment about being behind on her work, to which she commented, thats not the only thing that will be behind me. He responded by calling her a perv. Another comment after she gave him her phone number, he replied " better watch it, Im gonna drunk dial you some day" She responded, "I hope so")
There is a lot of mild "pet names" Favorite mamma bear, mamma bear, among others. No babe or anything like that.
pokes to get each others attention when they have gone a whole 8 hours without speaking (sleep). She also asked him his work schedule.
What I deem as fishing for "interest" such as, am I the only guy you talk to in private, types of things. She replies that he is. He says, I feel special.
Not a lot that has technically stepped over the line YET.
But I asked him to stop talking to her a few days ago, and he got very angry, telling me I was controlling, ect. The fight got so bad that by the end of the night he told me he hated me, and hated living here.
Last night it hit a head. I could see (I could see the texting) that while we were arguing, he was getting shorter and shorter with me (snippy) while talking to her in between.
I finally got angry, and called him out. BUT I lied on one thing because I didnt want him to know I could see the texts. so I told him her BF and I talked (who is also in their guild) and he was not very happy with the flirtatiousness and frequency of them speaking.
His tune changed immediately, he immediately texted and apologized to the BF, saying that he hoped he wasnt offended, and if he wanted him to back off he would, That he and the girl were just friends. This made me a bit furious, because this guy is a stranger, but when I told him it bothered me, he would just get angry with me, tell me I was jealous and over-reacting.
I ended up confessing to him that I hadnt spoken to the guy, and that I had been watching their texts.
he swears he has no feelings for this girl, he was sweet talking with me last night, told me if he was being flirty he didnt mean it. Seemed to have a reasonable explanation for everything.
But my gut is telling me, he isnt being honest with himself about this.
so... Do men invest this much time and it truly is innocent.
I should mention, we have a lot of stressors at home right now. He recently found out his 16 year old child, really isnt his. Im in a custody fight with my ex. My mother in law has overstayed her welcome by at least 6 months now, with no end date in sight, My husband has been working 84 hours a stretch with only a couple days off in between, AND his father (whom he had no contact with over the last 7-9 years) just died a little over a month ago.
Oh forgot to add, the BF ended up texting me a few times. Very not nice texts at all. I apologized to him, for lying. it didnt cause any problems between him and his girl.
But he kept texting me, about losing a friend, that Im a jealous person and basically he hopes he leaves me, on and on.
I showed it to my husband.
basically he just apologized to the BF for the drama. Thats it.
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