My sex life leaves a lot to be desired. We've been together 3+ years. In the beginning the sex wasn't often enough, but it was almost every day that we saw each other. Maybe 4-6 times a month. Figured it would increase in frequency once we started living together. It didn't. It also wasn't that great to be honest. He seems to lack the passionate, domineering, alpha male thing.
The real problem is he much prefers manual or oral stimulation to intercourse when he is interested in sex at all (once or twice a week, Sat or Sun morning only). I get it, it's a helluva lot less work for him. On the other hand, I've never ever been with or heard of a person that didn't prefer intercourse. I used to perform oral all the time but have recently stopped. Which I hate because i geniunely LIKE doing it for him, but I'm definitely beginning to resent giving and not receiving. He told me he just doesn't really enjoy giving oral, it's not me, he's never really liked it. The 3 times he actually did it, he was half drunk and he was really good at it.
He also never kisses me passionately either. Now that I think about it, he hasn't kissed me in 4 or 5 months, other than a peck. The more I type the more I realize how utterly sad my sex life actually is. The last time we had intercourse was sometime in Feb.
We spend most of our free time together. There is no other woman, I'm sure of that. He's very cuddly and affectionate and hugs me all the time. I'm just so dang frustrated with our sex life and his constantly checking his phone and that spills over into other aspects of our life together.
He's constantly on Facebook, and I mean constantly. I was cooking last night, and I could see him on the couch watching tv. In 47 mins he picked up his phone and logged into Facebook 9 times. He scrolls and scrolls and reads and reads. He never posts anything. So after dinner I'm watching a TV show with him (that he asked me to watch with him) and at one point I said something like "I think I've seen this before, have you?" He grunts at me, because he's on his Facebook. So even when we are watching TV, he's on his Facebook. Hes never just THERE with me. I have to wait for him to finish whatever he's doing on Facebook, then he'll answer me, if he can remember what I said. It's really frustrating and I feel stupid that I feel like I'm in competition with his damn phone.
I think it's time for a Bloody Mary.
The real problem is he much prefers manual or oral stimulation to intercourse when he is interested in sex at all (once or twice a week, Sat or Sun morning only). I get it, it's a helluva lot less work for him. On the other hand, I've never ever been with or heard of a person that didn't prefer intercourse. I used to perform oral all the time but have recently stopped. Which I hate because i geniunely LIKE doing it for him, but I'm definitely beginning to resent giving and not receiving. He told me he just doesn't really enjoy giving oral, it's not me, he's never really liked it. The 3 times he actually did it, he was half drunk and he was really good at it.
He also never kisses me passionately either. Now that I think about it, he hasn't kissed me in 4 or 5 months, other than a peck. The more I type the more I realize how utterly sad my sex life actually is. The last time we had intercourse was sometime in Feb.
We spend most of our free time together. There is no other woman, I'm sure of that. He's very cuddly and affectionate and hugs me all the time. I'm just so dang frustrated with our sex life and his constantly checking his phone and that spills over into other aspects of our life together.
He's constantly on Facebook, and I mean constantly. I was cooking last night, and I could see him on the couch watching tv. In 47 mins he picked up his phone and logged into Facebook 9 times. He scrolls and scrolls and reads and reads. He never posts anything. So after dinner I'm watching a TV show with him (that he asked me to watch with him) and at one point I said something like "I think I've seen this before, have you?" He grunts at me, because he's on his Facebook. So even when we are watching TV, he's on his Facebook. Hes never just THERE with me. I have to wait for him to finish whatever he's doing on Facebook, then he'll answer me, if he can remember what I said. It's really frustrating and I feel stupid that I feel like I'm in competition with his damn phone.
I think it's time for a Bloody Mary.
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