OK, my ex and me has decided to go separate ways, it isn't the first time we separated just this time it shall be permanent.
Reason
I've mostly kept it quiet and opted to check-in to a nice hotel while she packs up to leave and the kids 1 has gone for a skiing trip with her class, the other is spending time with the grandma while the youngest is in Singapore with my parents.
I don't feel angry, sad or upset about the split-up at all, maybe a bit surprised but I'm not resentful of her for it, I'm not even worried about anything.
I called up my parents to check on how my youngest was keeping up, I casually told them we are going separate ways, suddenly they got all worried asking if I was okay, whether I wanted to come back to Singapore for a few days, then they started asking if the ex had been violent. I told them seriously everything is just fine and they start asking me if I have enough money to pay her off and I told them she is asking for one piece of land, they asked me to quickly give it to her and give her some extra money as well so she doesn't come back to ask for more. Whole day they kept in contact.
Then my MiL starts calling asking if I was fine, I told her everything is fine, then she asks if I wanted to come by to her house to stay, I told her am staying in a hotel as I'm down with a bad flu and don't want to spread the germs and she is asking me to not do anything stupid. Then she starts asking if I needed any help to contact her and that she will tell the ex to go away and not harm me. I was like what no... we are splitting up not at war with each other.
Then there is my SiL, she somehow has this impression that the ex had beaten me and that was why I had moved to check-in to a hotel. I told her am just fine and nothing of that sort happened and I'm in a hotel as I'm down with a bad flu plus had some vouchers that were expiring.
Then I contacted one friend of mine from one of my car clubs to ask for a favour, asked him if I could borrow some space from him to park one of my cars as I had to move out of the house, bwah....suddenly he gets the idea that my ex had kicked me out of the house and left me without a single kronor, starts asking if everything was okay and where I was or if I was homeless. I told him I'm just fine and staying in a nice hotel. I told him everything really is fine and I will get someone to trailer the car to his place. Suddenly not too long after that I get 7 calls from people from this club asking if I was okay and they all asked whether I wanted them to organize a fun drive somewhere to get my mind off stuff, I'm like what stuff?
After that I contact one of my American expat friends here as he has a car trailer and pickup truck, I asked if I could borrow it as I needed to move my car and whether or not he could help me with it, he asked whether I was upgrading my garage that I had to move everything out, I told him I was moving out of the house, he guessed it that it was due to a split-up and asked if everything was okay, then he starts asking if I wanted to meet up for some drinks to celebrate her going away. LOL suddenly the word got around that I'm going through a split up and everyone is asking me if I'm okay and then there are the usual ones now it is time to find someone else and that their Thai gf/partner has so and so available and whether or not I wanted an introduction.
Then I phoned my boss and told him I needed a few days off work next week and I won't be able to go offshore as planned due to a family emergency, he asked if everything was okay, I told him no one died and I just needed to go to solve some paperwork, anyway I'm quite close to him so I told him it is because I need to go to Court and also get my paperwork in order. LOL he straight away asked me if I was planning to leave Norway, I told him seriously I'll be back to work on Wednesday and nothing else changes. He then went on that I could take as much time as I needed and only come back when I'm ready. He then asked if I wanted help to find a different job out of Norway he would understand, I had to tell him I'm not moving out of Norway.
Goodness, what's up with everyone being so worried?
Reason
Spoiler:
Mostly to do with time I guess, plus she simply feels we have grown apart and outgrown each other, there was also the control issue where she simply felt despite mostly having the last say on most aspects she felt she wasn't in control.
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Mostly to do with time I guess, plus she simply feels we have grown apart and outgrown each other, there was also the control issue where she simply felt despite mostly having the last say on most aspects she felt she wasn't in control.
I've mostly kept it quiet and opted to check-in to a nice hotel while she packs up to leave and the kids 1 has gone for a skiing trip with her class, the other is spending time with the grandma while the youngest is in Singapore with my parents.
I don't feel angry, sad or upset about the split-up at all, maybe a bit surprised but I'm not resentful of her for it, I'm not even worried about anything.
I called up my parents to check on how my youngest was keeping up, I casually told them we are going separate ways, suddenly they got all worried asking if I was okay, whether I wanted to come back to Singapore for a few days, then they started asking if the ex had been violent. I told them seriously everything is just fine and they start asking me if I have enough money to pay her off and I told them she is asking for one piece of land, they asked me to quickly give it to her and give her some extra money as well so she doesn't come back to ask for more. Whole day they kept in contact.
Then my MiL starts calling asking if I was fine, I told her everything is fine, then she asks if I wanted to come by to her house to stay, I told her am staying in a hotel as I'm down with a bad flu and don't want to spread the germs and she is asking me to not do anything stupid. Then she starts asking if I needed any help to contact her and that she will tell the ex to go away and not harm me. I was like what no... we are splitting up not at war with each other.
Then there is my SiL, she somehow has this impression that the ex had beaten me and that was why I had moved to check-in to a hotel. I told her am just fine and nothing of that sort happened and I'm in a hotel as I'm down with a bad flu plus had some vouchers that were expiring.
Then I contacted one friend of mine from one of my car clubs to ask for a favour, asked him if I could borrow some space from him to park one of my cars as I had to move out of the house, bwah....suddenly he gets the idea that my ex had kicked me out of the house and left me without a single kronor, starts asking if everything was okay and where I was or if I was homeless. I told him I'm just fine and staying in a nice hotel. I told him everything really is fine and I will get someone to trailer the car to his place. Suddenly not too long after that I get 7 calls from people from this club asking if I was okay and they all asked whether I wanted them to organize a fun drive somewhere to get my mind off stuff, I'm like what stuff?
After that I contact one of my American expat friends here as he has a car trailer and pickup truck, I asked if I could borrow it as I needed to move my car and whether or not he could help me with it, he asked whether I was upgrading my garage that I had to move everything out, I told him I was moving out of the house, he guessed it that it was due to a split-up and asked if everything was okay, then he starts asking if I wanted to meet up for some drinks to celebrate her going away. LOL suddenly the word got around that I'm going through a split up and everyone is asking me if I'm okay and then there are the usual ones now it is time to find someone else and that their Thai gf/partner has so and so available and whether or not I wanted an introduction.
Then I phoned my boss and told him I needed a few days off work next week and I won't be able to go offshore as planned due to a family emergency, he asked if everything was okay, I told him no one died and I just needed to go to solve some paperwork, anyway I'm quite close to him so I told him it is because I need to go to Court and also get my paperwork in order. LOL he straight away asked me if I was planning to leave Norway, I told him seriously I'll be back to work on Wednesday and nothing else changes. He then went on that I could take as much time as I needed and only come back when I'm ready. He then asked if I wanted help to find a different job out of Norway he would understand, I had to tell him I'm not moving out of Norway.
Goodness, what's up with everyone being so worried?
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