Together almost 25 years, both mid-40s. Just had our 2nd child (whos 6 months old now)
A big problem we have is sex or lack of it. To be fair, wife has never been the keenest even when we were younger and its just got worse and worse.
Of course, we had sex to enable us to have our 2nd child but since then nothing. So well over a year. There is sexual contact (without going into details it involves pleasure for me for very little effort from her) but not full sex. And its something wife does or puts up with to stop me moaning.
Anyway, its been a rough time for all. But we've got a hotel booked for a few nights for her birthday in a few weeks. Got babysitter booked etc.
Trouble is, it'd be nice if it happened. But thats the thing. I don't think shes going to be keen. Not helped by the fact that shes still got the baby belly which makes her feel bad.
Looking for womans perspective here a little maybe. Am I being unfair to expect her to make a bit of effort? After all, with a baby chances are limited and its not often we get time on our own like this. Or is it OK for her not to be interested and I have to put up with no sex ? Should I just be grateful that shes ok for some things?
Its just I'm thinking if it doesnt happen at times like this then its never going to again in reality.... Really depressing thought.
A big problem we have is sex or lack of it. To be fair, wife has never been the keenest even when we were younger and its just got worse and worse.
Of course, we had sex to enable us to have our 2nd child but since then nothing. So well over a year. There is sexual contact (without going into details it involves pleasure for me for very little effort from her) but not full sex. And its something wife does or puts up with to stop me moaning.
Anyway, its been a rough time for all. But we've got a hotel booked for a few nights for her birthday in a few weeks. Got babysitter booked etc.
Trouble is, it'd be nice if it happened. But thats the thing. I don't think shes going to be keen. Not helped by the fact that shes still got the baby belly which makes her feel bad.
Looking for womans perspective here a little maybe. Am I being unfair to expect her to make a bit of effort? After all, with a baby chances are limited and its not often we get time on our own like this. Or is it OK for her not to be interested and I have to put up with no sex ? Should I just be grateful that shes ok for some things?
Its just I'm thinking if it doesnt happen at times like this then its never going to again in reality.... Really depressing thought.
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