I just asked my husband to leave the house due to an EA. He even now still says it is not an affair, they are only friends, but because of this thinks I'm overreacting. He's only been not living at the house for about 3 weeks now, but no real change so far. Communication has slowed, but not stopped. My line in the sand is she is out of our lives or I leave the marriage. So far, he's not stopped all contact with her and they work together so unless one of them leaves the company they won't ever end all contact.
My friends are telling me it's time to go forward with filing, but in my head it's only been 3 weeks - I'm thinking of the time of actual separation. Problems have been here since right before Thanksgiving, and a friend today said no, you've been asking him to stop contact with this woman for 3 months, it's time to act. Actually filing for divorce is just so final, I'm scared to move forward with it. I also still love him and do not actually want to divorce. Then again, if I look at it realistically it seems like I am fighting a losing battle. He refuses MC and won't agree to stop calling/texting her.
We talk and lately the discussions are less hostile. I do see some changes in him for the positive. He's been doing individual counseling. Do I give a dealine? If you file, is there a chance to take it back? A few mutual friends don't think he sees me as serious and feel he needs to be served to get it. I thought asking him to move out would get it through to him, but maybe not.
My friends are telling me it's time to go forward with filing, but in my head it's only been 3 weeks - I'm thinking of the time of actual separation. Problems have been here since right before Thanksgiving, and a friend today said no, you've been asking him to stop contact with this woman for 3 months, it's time to act. Actually filing for divorce is just so final, I'm scared to move forward with it. I also still love him and do not actually want to divorce. Then again, if I look at it realistically it seems like I am fighting a losing battle. He refuses MC and won't agree to stop calling/texting her.
We talk and lately the discussions are less hostile. I do see some changes in him for the positive. He's been doing individual counseling. Do I give a dealine? If you file, is there a chance to take it back? A few mutual friends don't think he sees me as serious and feel he needs to be served to get it. I thought asking him to move out would get it through to him, but maybe not.
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