I'll try to stay a bit brief on details.
Back in Feb. of last year we decided to move for a new job for my wife. We were in the middle of a bath addition in our house and I coudn't just walk out on my job. On top of this we have a 2 yr old. So my wife and little girl moved, 100 miles away while i worked on our house and 3.5 days(45 hrs) at my employeer. We saw each other every weekend. House sold in July, I continued to stay for the 3.5 day work week while we were building our new house as I did a lot of the work myself.
Basically a week ago I opened our laptop to find an email conversation between my wife and another guy. Upon questions, he was a guy from New York that she had been sexting a little, email, calling etc. since about the beginning of July. She said she would end all of it immediately, okay. Now we jsut need communication nad possibly some counseling. On tuesday morning before work I was thinking about all of this and recall seeing a name on a file in the temp folder back in maybe sept. I look this name up and he's from a neighboring city about 30 minutes away, definately not New York. I made it to work to turn around and wake my wife. The real story was out, now she needed to be honest. Let me add, I think she has been since this point. She physically met this guy 6 times, sleeping with him 4 of those times. She generally talked to him every weekday at least once and frequently emailed, texted, snaped, etc. Although it had been less as of the last few months and hadnt met sin ce maybe Sept or so, possibnly early Oct.
With all of this said, I made the move to be with my family everyday of the week rather than thursday- sunday in mid-Oct.
A little back story, we're both 31, started dating in 2004 and have been married for almost 6 yrs. We have a 2 yr old and had planned on trying to have another in the coming yr.
I have no intention of leaving my wife at this point, however, I can't rule out divorce yet. I still love her, and dont' want to be away. I can't find a benefit of divorce, of course unless this happens again. We've started counsoling together as well as independently, in which we're told it'll take time but we'll be okay.
My questions are vast and ever changing but I would liek to know what people think that have actually been through this kind of thing.
Thanks to all and I'm sorry for the long windedness.
I'll do a follow up post for a couple of concerns/questions I've been having today.
Back in Feb. of last year we decided to move for a new job for my wife. We were in the middle of a bath addition in our house and I coudn't just walk out on my job. On top of this we have a 2 yr old. So my wife and little girl moved, 100 miles away while i worked on our house and 3.5 days(45 hrs) at my employeer. We saw each other every weekend. House sold in July, I continued to stay for the 3.5 day work week while we were building our new house as I did a lot of the work myself.
Basically a week ago I opened our laptop to find an email conversation between my wife and another guy. Upon questions, he was a guy from New York that she had been sexting a little, email, calling etc. since about the beginning of July. She said she would end all of it immediately, okay. Now we jsut need communication nad possibly some counseling. On tuesday morning before work I was thinking about all of this and recall seeing a name on a file in the temp folder back in maybe sept. I look this name up and he's from a neighboring city about 30 minutes away, definately not New York. I made it to work to turn around and wake my wife. The real story was out, now she needed to be honest. Let me add, I think she has been since this point. She physically met this guy 6 times, sleeping with him 4 of those times. She generally talked to him every weekday at least once and frequently emailed, texted, snaped, etc. Although it had been less as of the last few months and hadnt met sin ce maybe Sept or so, possibnly early Oct.
With all of this said, I made the move to be with my family everyday of the week rather than thursday- sunday in mid-Oct.
A little back story, we're both 31, started dating in 2004 and have been married for almost 6 yrs. We have a 2 yr old and had planned on trying to have another in the coming yr.
I have no intention of leaving my wife at this point, however, I can't rule out divorce yet. I still love her, and dont' want to be away. I can't find a benefit of divorce, of course unless this happens again. We've started counsoling together as well as independently, in which we're told it'll take time but we'll be okay.
My questions are vast and ever changing but I would liek to know what people think that have actually been through this kind of thing.
Thanks to all and I'm sorry for the long windedness.
I'll do a follow up post for a couple of concerns/questions I've been having today.
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