Feeling so stupid and selfish.
Basically, my girlfriend had arranged a date for us today-except it wasn't a date, it was a late surprise birthday party. Cake, bowling, pizza, the works. And some really lovely presents including a watch which she must have spent a bomb on.
Unfortunately she invited her guy friend 'Superman' who I've discussed at length previously, and them getting all flirty etc. made me feel jealous and insecure yet again, to the point I had to leave the table to 'go to the toilet' and had the first symptoms of an anxiety attack, pins and needles in my face. (Also a symptom of stroke, thank you hypochondria!)
I explained this to her (over Facebook and text, I can't call her as her parents don't know), namely that I felt she was spending a lot of time with him today. It was my birthday party and she spent most of the 3 hours chatting to him; I'm happy she's got a good guy friend but I really feel she prefers him to me. She denied this, saying I went quite and was giving her the silent treatment.
I tried to use assertive language expressing my feelings but she exploded. 'Everything I've done for you today, all that money I spent, just for you to say this?!' apparently I've grossly accused her.
We've gone to bed on bad terms (in different houses :P), needless to say. I feel incredibly selfish, a little immature, and obviously very needy and pathetic as a result of my behaviour.
How do I redeem this? Is it even possible or have I basically nailed the coffin on this relationship with my paranoia?
I genuinely think she has feelings for this guy btw-I'm not saying she doesn't care for me but I think she likes him, and feels more obliged to stay with me so as not to hurt my feelings or because we've been going out a while-and also because he has a girlfriend as it is. He can make her laugh more and she thinks the world of him.
I am actually very tempted to just tell her that I feel she deserves better and I'm not ready for a relationship, she should find a guy who's more mature. I am almost tempted to tell her you and Superman would make a great couple, I'm going to let you go and actually be happy.
Basically, my girlfriend had arranged a date for us today-except it wasn't a date, it was a late surprise birthday party. Cake, bowling, pizza, the works. And some really lovely presents including a watch which she must have spent a bomb on.
Unfortunately she invited her guy friend 'Superman' who I've discussed at length previously, and them getting all flirty etc. made me feel jealous and insecure yet again, to the point I had to leave the table to 'go to the toilet' and had the first symptoms of an anxiety attack, pins and needles in my face. (Also a symptom of stroke, thank you hypochondria!)
I explained this to her (over Facebook and text, I can't call her as her parents don't know), namely that I felt she was spending a lot of time with him today. It was my birthday party and she spent most of the 3 hours chatting to him; I'm happy she's got a good guy friend but I really feel she prefers him to me. She denied this, saying I went quite and was giving her the silent treatment.
I tried to use assertive language expressing my feelings but she exploded. 'Everything I've done for you today, all that money I spent, just for you to say this?!' apparently I've grossly accused her.
We've gone to bed on bad terms (in different houses :P), needless to say. I feel incredibly selfish, a little immature, and obviously very needy and pathetic as a result of my behaviour.
How do I redeem this? Is it even possible or have I basically nailed the coffin on this relationship with my paranoia?
I genuinely think she has feelings for this guy btw-I'm not saying she doesn't care for me but I think she likes him, and feels more obliged to stay with me so as not to hurt my feelings or because we've been going out a while-and also because he has a girlfriend as it is. He can make her laugh more and she thinks the world of him.
I am actually very tempted to just tell her that I feel she deserves better and I'm not ready for a relationship, she should find a guy who's more mature. I am almost tempted to tell her you and Superman would make a great couple, I'm going to let you go and actually be happy.
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