this is pretty long, and I will be very appreciative that your bear with me and comment it.
when he talks with me, I can't ask question, otherwise he yells to me and tells me " i am not talking with you, because u don't understand anything"
screaming to me if i ever talk with the neighbors in the cove......
just like he never wants to answer my phone when he is not working, even not when our babies were in hospital, not when i had a car accident....but it's " my fault" in his the picture he painted to everybody he knows
the only time he would answer my phone or being nice to me is that when he has kids that he has with his ex come to visit him and he wants me to help on them during these period which is 180 days totally per year routinely plus countless days he constantly helps her on them and have them in our house and expects me help him on such and if he doesn't think i do enough for them, or if he doesn't think i helped the way he wants, he refuses to buy food clothes for the babies he has w. me, and of course, refuses to buy for me too.
my babies doesn't understand even the animals would try their best to get the food for their babies, which mean their father is worse than a animal.
so since their father change their diapers once a while, or plays with them once a while, after he gets up at 10 am and then take a nap to 4 pm, my babies are happy with it and my babies are telling me they love him. because they don't understand the duty of father is not just sleep to 10 am, nap to 4 pm and play pee-co-po with them once a while when he is not lying his As* in the bed when he off work
count he work little less than half year out of one year out of town, then count he has his kids from his past marriage come to visit him 180 days per year, the family time he has with the family he forms with me is less than 2 month a year,
during these less than 2 month a year supposedly i expect it is for my family i have with him only,
but too bad for me, during these less than 2 month a year, or he is sleeping to 10 am, napping to 4 pm, or he is helping his ex on their kid to come to our house make a mess, and expect me to wait on them without saying Thank You to me, and pick up their mess
or he is complaining i am not giving him enough free time hence he needs to go out to get his Sh*t done in the night without having dinner with me and our babies, or if he somehow has dinner with us,
or he will just simply provoke me by telling me i am crazy, it 's too bad for my babies to have a mother like me, if i ever say:
" it's not right for a married man to stay out in the night and stay late......and i do give u time to do your things but u choose to sleep to 10 am and nap to 4 pm. that's all the time i can give to u. "
"when u work out of the town, i take care of our babies like a single mother, when u are off work, i am luck enough to work like a single mother as far as u don't help on your ex to have the kids you have with her to come over our house "
even though he never wants to buy food clothes for the babies he has with me and not spend time with these babies either, I still have helped him my b***off on the kids that he has w. his ex .....
and even I helped him my b***off on kids that he has w. his ex, he has told them not to say thank you to me, not to say hi to me when they come in my house and when they leave from my house, i can see kids want to say hi, and thank you to me, but, because of their father said not, they had to go with what he tells them.
never wants to sleep with me but just f.ck with me.....
THEN, he tells whole neighborhood I am the one initiate these craps which I kind of wonder his reason of blaming me about these in order to seek a divorce based on " my fault of no affection" in order to F.ck his EX and whoever freely.....
never wants to help me on the kids he has with me, or help around unless i get on him, but always help his ex on the kids he has w. her; left me alone in hospital, then left me alone on bed in the house without food for 3 days, not even to ask if i was hungry, because he was busy with helping his ex on their kids, to my opinion, I really feel he was busy to please his ex in order to screw with her ...
otherwise, what can I think of since he is so eagle to help her on their kids, but never wants to help me on the babies he has with me...
Background
his kids come to my house 180 days totally per year, what i " whinny' here about him is not these 180 days totally per year but that he is agreeing to help his ex beside these 180 days, i have helped him my B***off on his kids when they routinely come to visit him in our house 180 days totally per year , and i helped him on his kids when he helps his ex beside his 180 days visitation with them per year, even though i am upset with the fact that he never wants to help me on our kids but always wants to help his ex on their kids...
you know what I mean, when he constantly helps his ex on their kids , but he always look for reasons not to help me on the kids he has with me, it hurts the feeling more than the work load he created by helping his ex on their kids
in the past years as soon as we get married, he has gone out in the night, not come to home till midnight, or just don't come home at all for several days when he is not working. and he would not answer my phone as well, i never know where he has been during these period.
What this means is that I am now at the place where I have detached, I don't try to work on the marriage because I just can't, I am resigned to a marriage without intimate connection. I share none of the normal stuff with him such as my medical information and day to day things outside the most basic, I don't share any personal worries or concerns with him. I've just given up. We operate as a household and partnership for practical concerns and that is it.
since our marriage is dead, should I just let him be late out till midnight or should I stop him?
what is the appropriate way to stop him?
when he talks with me, I can't ask question, otherwise he yells to me and tells me " i am not talking with you, because u don't understand anything"
screaming to me if i ever talk with the neighbors in the cove......
just like he never wants to answer my phone when he is not working, even not when our babies were in hospital, not when i had a car accident....but it's " my fault" in his the picture he painted to everybody he knows
the only time he would answer my phone or being nice to me is that when he has kids that he has with his ex come to visit him and he wants me to help on them during these period which is 180 days totally per year routinely plus countless days he constantly helps her on them and have them in our house and expects me help him on such and if he doesn't think i do enough for them, or if he doesn't think i helped the way he wants, he refuses to buy food clothes for the babies he has w. me, and of course, refuses to buy for me too.
my babies doesn't understand even the animals would try their best to get the food for their babies, which mean their father is worse than a animal.
so since their father change their diapers once a while, or plays with them once a while, after he gets up at 10 am and then take a nap to 4 pm, my babies are happy with it and my babies are telling me they love him. because they don't understand the duty of father is not just sleep to 10 am, nap to 4 pm and play pee-co-po with them once a while when he is not lying his As* in the bed when he off work
count he work little less than half year out of one year out of town, then count he has his kids from his past marriage come to visit him 180 days per year, the family time he has with the family he forms with me is less than 2 month a year,
during these less than 2 month a year supposedly i expect it is for my family i have with him only,
but too bad for me, during these less than 2 month a year, or he is sleeping to 10 am, napping to 4 pm, or he is helping his ex on their kid to come to our house make a mess, and expect me to wait on them without saying Thank You to me, and pick up their mess
or he is complaining i am not giving him enough free time hence he needs to go out to get his Sh*t done in the night without having dinner with me and our babies, or if he somehow has dinner with us,
or he will just simply provoke me by telling me i am crazy, it 's too bad for my babies to have a mother like me, if i ever say:
" it's not right for a married man to stay out in the night and stay late......and i do give u time to do your things but u choose to sleep to 10 am and nap to 4 pm. that's all the time i can give to u. "
"when u work out of the town, i take care of our babies like a single mother, when u are off work, i am luck enough to work like a single mother as far as u don't help on your ex to have the kids you have with her to come over our house "
even though he never wants to buy food clothes for the babies he has with me and not spend time with these babies either, I still have helped him my b***off on the kids that he has w. his ex .....
and even I helped him my b***off on kids that he has w. his ex, he has told them not to say thank you to me, not to say hi to me when they come in my house and when they leave from my house, i can see kids want to say hi, and thank you to me, but, because of their father said not, they had to go with what he tells them.
never wants to sleep with me but just f.ck with me.....
THEN, he tells whole neighborhood I am the one initiate these craps which I kind of wonder his reason of blaming me about these in order to seek a divorce based on " my fault of no affection" in order to F.ck his EX and whoever freely.....
never wants to help me on the kids he has with me, or help around unless i get on him, but always help his ex on the kids he has w. her; left me alone in hospital, then left me alone on bed in the house without food for 3 days, not even to ask if i was hungry, because he was busy with helping his ex on their kids, to my opinion, I really feel he was busy to please his ex in order to screw with her ...
otherwise, what can I think of since he is so eagle to help her on their kids, but never wants to help me on the babies he has with me...
Background
his kids come to my house 180 days totally per year, what i " whinny' here about him is not these 180 days totally per year but that he is agreeing to help his ex beside these 180 days, i have helped him my B***off on his kids when they routinely come to visit him in our house 180 days totally per year , and i helped him on his kids when he helps his ex beside his 180 days visitation with them per year, even though i am upset with the fact that he never wants to help me on our kids but always wants to help his ex on their kids...
you know what I mean, when he constantly helps his ex on their kids , but he always look for reasons not to help me on the kids he has with me, it hurts the feeling more than the work load he created by helping his ex on their kids
in the past years as soon as we get married, he has gone out in the night, not come to home till midnight, or just don't come home at all for several days when he is not working. and he would not answer my phone as well, i never know where he has been during these period.
What this means is that I am now at the place where I have detached, I don't try to work on the marriage because I just can't, I am resigned to a marriage without intimate connection. I share none of the normal stuff with him such as my medical information and day to day things outside the most basic, I don't share any personal worries or concerns with him. I've just given up. We operate as a household and partnership for practical concerns and that is it.
since our marriage is dead, should I just let him be late out till midnight or should I stop him?
what is the appropriate way to stop him?
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