Ok so me and my girlfriend are both 20 and had been together for a year when she ended it. We have been having alot of problems leading up to it so it wasn't exactly out of the blue. On average for the past 2 months she had broken up or threatened to break up with me atleast once a week. Over petty things in my opinion, things like me coming late to a meeting with her priest about celibacy (we are in a sexual relationship but she wanted to become celibate due to her Catholic beliefs). She dumped me over that when it was just an honest mistake as the meeting was at 9am and i woke up slightly late, in the end we still saw the priest but she had already decided n consulted with the priest before i arrived that she would dump me. She told me cold heartedly and walked of while the priest was telling me to accept it and move on. The next day she apologised saying i'm her best friend etc and she never really wanted to break up with me. Other reasons have been li ke me suggestng she could spontaneously cook me a meal as she comes over to my place multiple days a week and i always cook for her. She got angry and said she is a guest in my house and why would she cook and threatened to dump me again. Another time was when she told me her views on how if i don't earn more than her by the time it's time to get married she is going to leave me and will never marry me. I didn't agree and thought that was shallow and was pretty shocked and confused at how my girlfriend of 1 year could be so shallow. After the chat she wanted to cuddle as normal but i just wasn't in the mood after what she said, she then got angry and said she is ending the relationship this is the actual real breakup and left my place. This was 4 days ago.
There are loads of other examples of her getting overly emotional and dumping me only to say sorry later but we don't have all day. Anyway so she dumped me and blocked me on Whatsapp messenger, blocked and deleted me on facebook. Took a picture of us together down and i'm pretty sure blocked my number but i haven't called so i don't know for sure. Now each and every time she broke up with me a little piece of hope faded away inside of me. Like we have been on two holidays together, we went to Paris after 2 months of going out like we thought we were fairytale lovers destined to get married and have kids etc like no doubt 100%. Everytime we argued she would break up with me or threaten to and each time i little bit of hope that this fairytale was a piece of ****e would build up in side of me until the last time when she broke up with me i just agreed. She said i don't think this relationship is working and i said me too because i was just fed up with how up and down our relait onship was.
Anyway i don't know why i feel sometimes sad tho? I don't want her back, just looking back i feel like i was with an overly controlling women who could be lovely at times but was almost bi polar. So i feel somewhat relieved, sometimes i feel happy like good riddance to bad rubbish i will be happier single. Sometimes i feel hurt tho, alot of times actually. Its not that i even miss anything about her, i don't miss her smile her smell or any of that cheesy crap. Its more about the fact she blocked me that hurts like i have no intentions to contact her so it doesn't matter but it's so savage like she dumped me and then completely cut me out of her life. Like blocked me completely. Like regardless of how i felt i would never just block her like that like she's some sort of parasite. At times like once or twice i have felt like trying to call her but then i slap myself into thinking straight and i realise that i don't want her back and the reason for calling is just out of curiosi ty to see how she is. So like i should just leave it because if i wanted her back i should make every effort to get her back but as i don't i should just accept it and move on.
When we broke up she said she doesn't want any contact over christmas holidays so from now til Jan 28th and then that after maybe we can think about being friends. She said she doesn't want to lose me completely as i'm someone she wants to have in her life even if it's just as a friend. She then left and blocked me, could she have blocked me because of this though, either way it still kind of hurts. I feel like if she hasn't blocked me maybe we could have been friends but her blocking me has just annoyed me to the point where i just want to forget about her and mantaining any sort of friendship. What do you think though should i try and still be friends with her? Why am i hurt and facing so much mixed emotions?
There are loads of other examples of her getting overly emotional and dumping me only to say sorry later but we don't have all day. Anyway so she dumped me and blocked me on Whatsapp messenger, blocked and deleted me on facebook. Took a picture of us together down and i'm pretty sure blocked my number but i haven't called so i don't know for sure. Now each and every time she broke up with me a little piece of hope faded away inside of me. Like we have been on two holidays together, we went to Paris after 2 months of going out like we thought we were fairytale lovers destined to get married and have kids etc like no doubt 100%. Everytime we argued she would break up with me or threaten to and each time i little bit of hope that this fairytale was a piece of ****e would build up in side of me until the last time when she broke up with me i just agreed. She said i don't think this relationship is working and i said me too because i was just fed up with how up and down our relait onship was.
Anyway i don't know why i feel sometimes sad tho? I don't want her back, just looking back i feel like i was with an overly controlling women who could be lovely at times but was almost bi polar. So i feel somewhat relieved, sometimes i feel happy like good riddance to bad rubbish i will be happier single. Sometimes i feel hurt tho, alot of times actually. Its not that i even miss anything about her, i don't miss her smile her smell or any of that cheesy crap. Its more about the fact she blocked me that hurts like i have no intentions to contact her so it doesn't matter but it's so savage like she dumped me and then completely cut me out of her life. Like blocked me completely. Like regardless of how i felt i would never just block her like that like she's some sort of parasite. At times like once or twice i have felt like trying to call her but then i slap myself into thinking straight and i realise that i don't want her back and the reason for calling is just out of curiosi ty to see how she is. So like i should just leave it because if i wanted her back i should make every effort to get her back but as i don't i should just accept it and move on.
When we broke up she said she doesn't want any contact over christmas holidays so from now til Jan 28th and then that after maybe we can think about being friends. She said she doesn't want to lose me completely as i'm someone she wants to have in her life even if it's just as a friend. She then left and blocked me, could she have blocked me because of this though, either way it still kind of hurts. I feel like if she hasn't blocked me maybe we could have been friends but her blocking me has just annoyed me to the point where i just want to forget about her and mantaining any sort of friendship. What do you think though should i try and still be friends with her? Why am i hurt and facing so much mixed emotions?
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