Ex with depression, is there hope?

Hi everyone, My ex and I were together for almost 4 years, living together for 3. It's a bit of a long story but I'll try and keep it as short as possible! Our relationship was the kind where everything was perfect until the past was brought up or his depression kicked in. My ex has had depression from before we started dating. His father is quite depressed so it also runs in the family. The good news is, his depression isn't very bad and his counselor doesn't think he needs any medication. However, he never sought professional help for his depression during our relationship. I think this was a huge catalyst to the end of our relationship. Unfortunately, I was I guess his "rebound" because he had just broken up with his ex. He also lied to me about the whole situation (in his words it was to "protect me") and it turns out he was still seeing her (he assures me nothing happened) while we were dating. It was pretty devastating when I found out but I was pretty determined to get past it and move on with him to have a happy relationship. About a year ago he lost his job. I think this is when the depression worsened that it started to negatively affect our relationship. He started to shut down and would bottle up his feelings. He also stopped being as affectionate as I would have liked. When we fought, it was always about the same things - his lack of communication and his lack of affection. At the time I had no idea that the shutting down from me was a sign of depression so I never encouraged him to get help. It's one of my biggest regrets. The trust issue was never really resolved, just sort of lingering in the background. He would always get upset when I would tell him I didn't trust him and it was always MY fault that I didn't trust him, yet he's the one who lied to me in the first place. It would be different had he made an effort to show me I could trust him but his reasoning was always "well I didn't do anything so you should just trust me". But he would hide his phone from me. It was always small things, like when I found out he was messaging a coworker who had just lost her job and he called her sunshine. I was quite upset because he wasn't affectionate like that to me. He would comment on pictures of nude women on the internet saying things like how perfect they were. All I wanted was to feel important to him. At the start of this year he got a job offer in a city 12 hours away. We agreed to take the job and move there and finally buy a house, something we had been dreaming of doing for a long time. It was also his hometown which worked out great. I stayed behind for a few months while he searched for a house and got settled into his job. The long distance really played a toll on me. I think for him as well. We broke up one weekend when I went to go visit him. It was because I didn't like the house he had picked for us. In hindsight, it wasn't that I didn't like the house, it was that he didn't include me in the decision. I think just the stress of moving to a new city for me and having to find a new job was really hard. Also because he had bottled up his feelings this whole time, I think they just sort of came exploding back and it was too much for him. It was then where he told me he was depressed and needed time to be by himself to figure things out. He said once he is in a healthier spot mentally, he wants to try and get back together, if we can make our issues work (mainly trust and communication but also some more independence on my part). We talked everyday for a month. I started seeing a counselor myself to help me become a better person (for me, not him) and he started seeing a counselor to help him be a better him. My counselor suggested I cut off all communication with him to allow him to get better. So I did. We haven't talked in almost 2 months. When we broke up we decided that in October we would see whether or not we could get back together. He's been very clear that he would love to get back together with me but he's not sure we can fix our problems. I'm not sure if this is just the depression part in him talking or not, but a lot of the time depression will cause uncertain feelings. Next week I will be contacting him and seeing where he is at so we can book a plane ticket for me to see him in October if he is ready. I would love to get back together with him. I've been able to work with my counselor in becoming more independent and how I can trust him more, with his help of course. I think he does too, but it's so hard to say with depression. He sent me this lovely email saying he wants to get back together, but not sure if we can. He thinks that if we did get back together, we would be stronger than ever. He just needs to go get healthier so he can better make a decision about us. Do you think getting back together is a possibility for us? Can something like trust be "fixed" if both partners are willing? Or is this him letting me down gently? How do I show him that we can fix our issues? Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks to everyone who read all that.

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