| So I have this friend... let's call her Janie. We've known each other for only about three years and she's been my best friend for one of those years. I don't know what it is, maybe I'm just a jealous, territorial person, but I constantly feel like she chooses other people over me. Before I tell you this story, let me give you some background info: We went to school together for the three years in a country... let's say Italy. She is my absolute best friend in the entire world. I would do anything for her. Then I moved. Let's say I moved to Japan. We kept in touch but I hadn't seen her in half a year, and then she told me that she was coming to Japan during the summer. Of course, I was incredibly happy to hear the news! We both went to different summer camps before seeing each other, and they both ended on the same day, so once it ended, we rushed to our other friend's house (let's call her Erin) in Florida to reunite all three of us. Now with the story... Where Erin lives, there's not much to do... it's basically in the middle of nowhere, so on the second day, we were out of things to do outside the house. Since Janie is my best friend, I was hoping to spend some time with her alone so we could just talk and have a nice time, but the opportunity never came. I was disappointed, but it was only the second day, so I figured I'd have the rest of the time we'd be together to hang out with her. Later that day, we were all pretty exhausted because we had been up late the night before, so we were just sitting watching TV. Meanwhile, Janie is on her phone texting one of her friends she met at summer camp, and then she says "be right back" and goes upstairs to her room. After about half an hour, I go up to get something from my bag, and she is on her computer, video chatting with her friend from camp. I understand that she missed a friend she hadn't seen in a week, but she hadn't seen me in six months... Is it wron g for me to be hurt by this? I was pretty angry for a while, but I didn't say anything because I feel like it would be unfair or just bad of me to confront her for talking to one of her other friends instead of me, so I try to shake it off and just get some time to have fun with her later. Fortunately, I get to hang out with her later in the day and it ends well. I wake up happy knowing that it's water under the bridge, deciding that I was being unfair and that I should just forget about it and move on. The next night, we're pretty tired again and we're just sitting on our computers doing our own things, and I see that she changed her profile picture on Facebook to a picture of her and the friends she met at camp. I know that it is so unfair of me to be getting so upset over these tiny petty little things, but I can't help it. I constantly feel like she's slipping away... like she values her other friends more than she values me, and I can't stand it. It just feels like I got punched in the stomach every time something like this happens. I WANT to get over this little jealousy thing because I KNOW that it's not fair, but I just don't know how, or I just need to know that I'm not being unfair... Things like this have happened before, and I've told her flat out about how I felt multiple times, so I don't want to tell her again... I don't want to be the needy territorial friend that you have to tiptoe around and base your decisions on what will make her happy, so I don't know w hat to do... | |||
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