Sexual fantasies where women are attracted to me

All my life I've felt powerless and out of control and disrespected, like everyone was secretly laughing behind my back. I've ended up having sexual fantasies where I was the guy all the women wanted. I'm getting this with my OH at the moment, even though our relationship's no sex before marriage. I imagine her just wanting more and more. I'm embarrassed to tell her all this and feel ashamed, I want her to be happy not my sex-slave or status symbol. I'm a virgin mainly because I can't live up to these idealised alpha-male supermodel or rock-star images and that's depressing me, really depressing. If I had a stronegr character I would be them. I just feel no-one has or should respect me really and my self-sabotaging habits like compulsive masturbation (I guess; I've stood up a date before because I needed to fap that badly :/ and I've been late for work several times) and these fantasies aren't helpful either. I've also been submissive to my mum for years after divorce, which is only now starting to change. Before this change the fantasy did also involve my mum (srs Oedipus complex much) but now she's re-married/. So I'm n ot really sure why this is so important but I don't think it's healthy. How common is it for men to experience fantasies where they have dominance/women super-attracted to them? Especially when already in a relationship (albeit mostly emotional)?

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