I'll never understand stbxw

Ok, I have been dealing with our situation for over a year now. Wife had an emotional affair with coworker. She is still talking to him and just went back to work at same place with him. She has moved out for the 3rd time and said she is not coming back after this time. She's been gone for couple weeks this time. We have a 7yr old son and a new baby (4 weeks old girl) together so I see wife everyday. Problem is, I'm still in love with her but no its not going to work. She spent the night over here 2 nights last week because "it was late". We slept in the same bed and she doesnt mind if I hold her during the night. She is currently staying at her sisters. We'll I have been talking to this other woman only as friends. Today wife called her my girlfriend (completely not true) and I corrected her since she said it in front of our son. Anyways I told wife this morning before she went off to work I think she should get all her stuff out of the house. She said she doesn't have anywhere to put it. She said how about Wednesday. Well earlier tonight I was suppose to go out with a buddy and she said she would get all her stuff when I'm out. Well while she was at work today, I took it upon myself and did her the favor of gathering a her stuff up for her. I even put it at the front door for her. I also went to my Facebook page and took down about being married to her and changed it to single. Also stopped following her on instragram. Any time we get into it about our marriage she is emotionless. Well tonight was different. She started balling when she walked through that front door. Started going off about how she is the mother of our children and she would never do this to me. Oh that set me off inside. I kept cool though and responded that I would never do what she did to me to her. She called her mother because she needed help getting all the stuff. She asked me who has been influencing me to step up like this. I told her, "no one has. I'm tired of being a doormat and I had to get your stuff out to help me heal and dettach from you. I told her she is evil and has a evil spirit with in her. I think that hurt her as well. I did not take these actions to hurt her because honestly, I thought she would react emotionless like she always does. I guess this was a dose of reality for her. Well anyways she took her stuff and said she will come back to get the kids for the night because we planned for her to keep them tonight. She doesn't come back here to get them until almost midnight. So she comes in and stands there and starts to cry. She asked me what happened for me to change all of a sudden. Says I was nice last night and now after she gets home I'm no the same. I told her I can't do this any longer. Crying saying I kicked her out. Correction, you already left!! I'm not going to lie. I felt bad for her and I wanted to give her a hug but I didn't anfstood firm in my decision. She is starting to see the new me. I've joined a gym. Starting to do more for myself and I know she is noticing because she told me the other day she is jealous of me because I get to go the the gym and also tan. There are sometimes I start to feel down about all this, but I'm trying to keep my mind on other stuff. Anyways, she kept wanting to ask questions tonight. I asked her," why do u even care. You haven't upto this point." she knows she had an emotional affair and admits it, but follows with they didn't have a relationship. So I think deep down She doesnt feel it was as bad as if they had a sexual affair. Before she left we rode up to McDonald's to get my son something to eat and we all got a meal. Sat outside on front porch and ate. When she left things were cooled down. We are trying to remain calm around our children. I guess I'll never understand how she can get involved emotionally (maybe sexual, but no proof) with another man and expect me to continue to be a doormat throughout all this. I think I was one for too long. Now that I stand up and not going to take it any longer, I'm just so mean and doing stuff she would never do to me.

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