| I wasn't going to do this anon, but chickened out and decided to in the end :/ I've "officially" been with my boyfriend for about 6 weeks. That is, that's when we first spoke about the boyfriend/girlfriend labels. But we've been dating since last June/July time and over the months its progressed into a very close relationship. Despite all these months, things still very much feel in the honeymoon stage and will probably remain that way for a long time to come too. That is why we are so good together, and I love him. Recently, ever since we properly labelled things, I've felt the "next step" is for him/us to tell one another we love each other. I know that might sound like something you don't plan or wait for, and yes I agree. But that's the problem. I feel like because it hasn't been said all this time (nearly a year now!), there's some taboo around it for whatever reason. You know once you don't do something and leave loads of time, it becomes harder and more awkward and difficult to actually do in the end? The advice I myself would give to anyone who posted this thread would be to tell him and just spit it out or bring it up. But I can't do that, which is where to problem continues. I don't want a rejection, or for him to say it back when he doesn't proper mean it, or for things to then become different. So, if he rejected me, things may become awkward and I could even subconsciously be perceived as the "in love desperate one" which could change his attitude towards me. He could invest less into the relationship if he feels secure that I'm even less unlikely to leave him. Besides, I just don't know how I'd come out with it. I have no idea what he is thinking. I'm sure he must have thought about it at least once by now, no? Boys you can help me into his mind on that one? I have no idea whether he's just not ready, or he's thinking the exact same things as me in terms of embarrassment and fear of rejection. Yesterday we were texting about my friend who broke up with her boyfriend after about 3 weeks of being together, where he told her he loved her about a week after they'd met. They proceeded to argue within about 10 days of knowing each other then broke up. He said things along the line of "he clearly didn't love her then, glad we don't have all that ****". And I replied saying "what ****?", and he said "all that I love you so much stuff". My friends suggested he meant that he's glad we didn't rush into all that gooey stuff when it wasn't meant properly, but I just took it to mean that he's glad we don't tell each other we love each other and are intimate in that verbal way. It kind of hurt and suggested he's never ever going to say it be happy if I said it. I don't really have a question...I just...I dunno. Just want thoughts I guess? Like I said, because it's normally said between couples within the first few months, now after all this time it's like there's all this fear and awkwardness and it's so so much harder to bring up. I can't let anything ruin things. | |||
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