| My short version is my husband of over 20 years had an affair with a co-worker that went on for over a year. I discovered it through the cell phone bill; same old story of numerous texts and his cold behavior towards the kids and me. I moved to another state after he told me he would not stop working with her, etc. I thought I was over it and worked through it. We were waiting to finalize the divorce until we got our house sold which it did a few months ago. We talked about whether we had done everything we could to save the marriage in February. And that we might try to further get it all figured out. I thought there was a good open dialogue going even though I knew he was skyping with another woman who does not live in the US three months after I moved. I had also been spending time with someone here. He is now visiting this woman in her country which he tried to keep secret from me and is there now. I just feel like I have been hit again with a ll those old feelings from the first time. I am questioning if I did the right thing by moving; mostly regarding my kids. They are doing fine here and are stable, etc. It hurts to see my 10 year old missing his Dad so much. Maybe I am holding on to old memories and sometimes forgetting the bad ones. I am still in IC as it helps some. I want to move forward but feel like I am holding on to something or waiting for him to realize it was a big mistake. I don't think that will be coming from him. I just hate this whole infidelity process and want to move on. Then I get angry that I have invested all this time into the marriage when he was out not being invested in it at all. It really is hard today! | |||
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