Porn in a relationship

I'd like to hear from people how porn is viewed in your relationship and how do you think it should be viewed? What is porn's status in your ideal relationship? Personally, I'm the kind of person who'd like to be able to discuss sex and porn freely in a relationship. I have not been able to do that in my previous relationships at all but now I am in a relationship where I feel I can be completely open and honest to my man. The issue is however, he's not able to discuss porn with me. I'd really like to have some input especially from males but of course everyone can offer their thoughts. I am not one of those women who will get mad or feel inadequate (I watch porn quite a bit myself and am willing to share it) nor am I one of those women who says they are ok with porn but require it to become a mutual hobby that is solely or mainly practiced together. What I would want though is sharing our interests in that section of our private lives, maybe sometimes throwing each other with good clips or pictures. Maybe sometimes watching it together but thats not really a big thing for me. I also feel real hurt when I know my man's been watching porn (I have like the 6th sense in this matter haha) but lies about it straight to my face. Do you guys think my wishes are "out of bound"? Is there a reason why you guys don't want to share it at all and want to keep it completely private and even lie about it when asked? I do have to mention these things have been real difficult to my man and he's done amazing progress. I'm really trying to be patient but sometimes I just hurt a lot because of this and I'm trying to learn to understand him. And I'm trying to figure out how I can deal with this pain if this will never get solved. I really appreciate everyone's advice. :)

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