How to talk to BPD H about divorce

I'm so frustrated right now, basically my BPD husband has convinced himself that I am having an affair (which I am not and don't even do anything suspicious) packed up his stuff and left. I don't know how to handle this situation. I basically just let him pack up and leave because I knew if I started to say anything I was going to get out of control real quick. I try to stay calm but when I'm being accused of having an affair that I didn't have (and he is convinced it happened) I get very upset. I knew that at that time I was going to see red and do things that I'd regret. Basically I expect he will come back sometime today to call me more names and emotionally abuse me some more and get more of his stuff and blame it all on me. How do I deal with this? How do I approach it, what do I say? I don't want a divorce but he's not letting up and the more I try to talk to him the meaner and nastier his words become. I'm so hurt and he doesn't care, he's willing to throw away the past 9 years for nothing and not even have a second thought about it.

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