If my ex wife had followed this...

I wouldn't be divorced. 7 Ways to Adore Your Husband | iMOM I was cleaning out some boxes full of paper and came across a printout of this article... I guess my ex must have printed it out in the final months. Its funny, she did pretty much the opposite of everything on this list. My biggest complaints were being low priority, undesired and often criticized. Quote: For example, one husband I know told his wife about an upcoming business trip he had in New England. He was excited to take her because he knew how much she loved that area. But, instead of zeroing in on her husband's intent, she started thinking of things they could do if they brought the kids on the trip. He later told her he was crushed. This happened to me every other week. Literally any time I came up with something special just for us. Quote: Adore Him As a Sex Object. If you don't adore him in this area, who will? Someone else. Quote: Even if he's not 100 percent adorable, accept him as he is and adore him. The endless nagging criticism of my relatively few vices - smoking, staying up late, and sleeping in. Nagging... Every. Single. Day. Yet, on occassions when I tried to quit, not a single comment. A week without smoking? Nothing. When I started hitting the gym again and I'm obviously looking better, instead of "You're looking good! All that work is paying off", I got "why are you going to the gym all the time? who are you trying to impress?" Bonus criticism of pretty much any activity I enjoyed that wasn't a family activity. From getting my masters, to getting promotions to racing success to softball championships and even building a playground and sandbox - she literally could not say "good job" or "I'm proud of you." The closest thing was the playground and it was "I think it cost us more to build it ourselves than it would have been to just buy one, but the kids absolutely love it". When the end of the marriage was in sight and we were in counseling, she realized that most of what she would say to me was critical and she was very short on praise. After that, she started awkwardly doling out praise for every little thing... and it was just the most plastic, forced thing I can imagine hearing. I'm extremely achievement oriented and rightly or wrongly, the praise and image I project as a result of doing well is valuable to me. I like when others are impressed with what I've done... sue me. Over the years, I got the impression that my ex withheld praise for that very reason: I was seeking it. As if I was bragging and it was her job to not reward me. So it didn't matter what I did, there was no impressing her.

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