Husband's weight gain turning me off

Hi there, first time poster here. I realize that someone recently wrote with a very similar issue to mine but I would still appreciate any insight anyone could provide for me. My husband and I have been together for 10 years. For the first 5 years of our relationship he was very thin, and I found him absolutely hot. We got married, we both quit smoking.... and he slowly and steadily started to put on weight. It bothered me but I didn't say anything because I knew he felt sensitive about it and that it bothered him.... he said to me "I know you'll love me no matter what, but I really don't like the way my body looks right now". This was 4 years ago, and he's even heavier now! I've done the following things to sort of "beat around the bush" and attack this issue sideways: * when he went to the doc and found out he had high blood pressure, I talked to him about how concerned I was and told him I wanted him to be alive and healthy for a long time, and encouraged him to be healthier. * started cooking more healthily - we are still not *great* about this but we are both trying * Bought a scale, ostensibly for me but really in the hopes that HE would start to use it He doesn't really like to exercise that much, has started going to the gym maybe once every week or two. Will hike with me once in a great while. He's really not doing a whole lot to lose weight - maybe it's not a priority for him? Here's the thing: I *adore* my husband. We have a fantastic marriage and are very loving towards one another. There is absolutely no question of divorce - I am going to make this work no matter what. However, I am just not very physically attracted to him right now, and it's really hard to keep faking it. Physical attractiveness *does* matter, in addition to emotional intimacy. I was prepared for hair loss and wrinkles - I never expected him to get fat. How do I talk to him about his weight being a turn-off without totally breaking his heart? Is there any way to do this gently? I can only imagine how devastating it would be for him to hear this from me..... He is really sensitive, and he also completely adores me and is very turned on by me (for reference, I'm 5'6" and 130lbs, have stayed thin due to watching my diet and exercising regularly) I don't even know how to begin this conversation without him being terribly hurt, and having it damage our relationship. I am so very sad about this, have been pushing these feelings down for a really long time and am not sure how much longer I can hide them.

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