Divorce....Too Easy?

Ok, i have touched on some of this on other threads but i think this deserves it's own thread. **I WANT TO STATE NOW, THAT SOME MARRIAGES DEFINITELY NEED TO END, BUT I WILL TOUCH ON THAT FURTHER DOWN.** Let me start out by saying, when i found this site it was so very helpful to me and a good outlet and a place for support and advice. I saw this site as a place for people to get support to WORK THROUGH their problems in marriage. I felt that at the core, this site was about salvaging the sancity of marriage. However, the more threads i read, especially in CWI, there seems to be a common theme, "DUMP THE CHEATING B*TCH" As many of you that have read my posts know, i have forgiven my wife for her infidelity and i have assumed 50% of the responsibility for what led to the A. I am not wanting to debate the blame game on this thread. I made a choice to honor MY vows to her "in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, til death do us part." My vows didn't say, "until death do us part, unless you cheat on me or be mean to me for not give me enough sex" Even though she broke her vow to be with me "foresaking all others", it does not justify me breaking my vows. Two wrongs don't make it right. They say 50% of all marriages will end in divorce. I believe that number is only so high because a vast majority of those people are unwilling to put the work in, they are too proud, too selfish or just don't care. It is easy to walk away from a marriage when you have been hurt or betrayed. All of the excuses are lined up for you. It takes a strong person to really look deep into the marriage and identify the negatives, and to look into the spouses eyes and say "you hurt me, you betrayed me, but i forgive you. I love you. Lets work through this" For all of those that have preached to me about vows in marriage, it seems that it is one sided and only what benefits the BS. How about the for better or for worse part? I believe that people tend to look for the easy way out when things get tough. I thought about leaving after finding out what my wife did, but what was that going to solve or prove? Was it going to be a good "punishment" for her? Was it going to make me feel better or happier? No. When i married her, i committed to be at her side forever and to love her UNCONDITIONALLY. Now, with all of that being said, i definitely believe in divorce in some of the following scenarios (and this is obviously not all of them) When the marriage and/or spouse is: 1. Physically or emtionally abusive 2. Endagering the well-being of a child 3. cheating again and again even after being caught 4. Is not remorseful after an affair or unwilling to take responsibility for it well, i've started to run out of other justifications...i'm sure there's plent more. But just to say, "well we don't have a lot of the same interests, or we have grown apart, etc" I don't want to hear it. Put in the work. Make the effort. Quit looking for the easy way out so you can protect your pride. I am sure i am biased due to the broekn home i grew up in, but i think it helps me appreciate the true value of a stable home life for my children

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