Depression or bad marriage?

I've struggled with depression on and off for the last 6-7 years, with varying degrees of severity, but nothing so bad as the last year or so. I would guess that mostly has to do with postpartum depression following the birth of our daughter, who's now 15 months old. That's also about the time our marriage (or at least my feelings about it) started to deteriorate. My husband and I have been married almost 3 years, together for 5. He's a good man, he works hard, he treats me like a princess most of the time (actually probably too much), he's a wonderful loving father... but more and more, I just find myself wondering what I saw in him; there's zero physical attraction for me, I can't stand sex (I think we've had sex once in the last two months at this point), almost everything he does lately annoys me. But, I don't think it's all him at all... as far as sex, it grosses me out in general; I'm not attracted to anyone else, either... the whole idea of it is just unappealing to me. We certainly have some communication issues, and we've been in marriage counseling for a couple months but I don't think it's done any good so far. He seems very engaged while we're there, but he doesn't put any of the suggestions into practice and just doesn't really listen to me at all... to the point I've gotten tired of nagging him to listen and just don't really talk to him anymore unless it concerns our daughter. He whines all the time about missing "the old me", saying "you don't give me any affection anymore," etc. I've told him it's hard because of my depression. I know he wants to support me but he goes about it all the wrong ways, usually. My depression is horrible. I've been seeing a psychiatrist and counselor for at least 9 months, and so far nothing has helped at all. I'm on at least my 4th medication (nothing has worked at all) and counseling hasn't really helped. It's incredibly frustrating. Sorry this is so long... there's probably a lot more to it. But really I'm just curious if anyone has any experiences like this... I can't fathom the thought of my marriage ending. I would do anything to fix it. I'm desperately hoping it's just my depression, deteriorating communication, etc., that's "turning me off" at this point, and that there's a way to get the feeling back, whether it's by alleviating my depression, our issues, or both... It's been about a year I've felt this way... it's gotten worse in that year. I know marriages can have periods like this, but I don't know if that's a long time or not. Looking for some hope...

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