Hey all,
So me and a friend from school met up, 3 years since school. We got together and started a long distance relationship (different unis).
Things escalated quickly (saying I love you after a month), which I know is a big sign of infatuation. I think we must have mistook lust for love because the sex is incredible, but the emotional side of it is starting to break down 6 months in. I can already feel us starting to manipulate and resent each other in small ways. She lies all the time about tiny things. But we're clinging onto the fantasy of being perfectly in love and it's driving me crazy. But deep down I feel like she must know the same thing. But for some reason we can't talk about it and it's ruining the relationship?
I just don't understand why relationships have an expiry date when friendships don't. And why people can't be honest with each other as soon as they're romantically involved.
Part of me feels like maybe I have trust issues and I'm just freaking out because I'm close to someone and don't want to get hurt, which I feel like in inevitable. But really I think I just don't want to admit to myself that we're just two hormonal 22 year olds with addictive personalities and the relationship is intense and volatile. It seems obvious that neither of us are cut out for a long term relationship, and we're quite cynical about them. I guess the feelings just crept up.
I'd hate for us to lose our friendship, and the sex, because of all this emotional intensity. Is there any way to salvage this kind of relationship? It would be painful for me too, but is it possible to be friends with benefits (which i feel is the most healthy form of relationship) with an ex? Do you need to go on a break? Am I a dick?
Thanks for any advice
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