I recently found out my wife had been having secret calls, and messaging with a male friend. The fact they were talking or texting wouldn't bother me, but when they try to keep it secret it does. To me that means something more is going on than just a simple friendship. Anyway I got suspicious when she was staying up late after i'd go to bed, often, having conversations at very late hours.
I did some investigating on my own and found ways to get to the bottom of things. I found she had been having this secret "relationship" for several months. I also determined that the guy's wife doesn't know about it either. They would use *67 on the calls when calling a landline, they'd talk about assuring it was "secure" when making a call or contacting each other.
I was hurt and decided to confront her. She admitted to the calls but said they were just friends and it was innocent. I told her how it made me feel and that it was an emotional affair she was having etc.
She said she understood and we decided to reinvest in our relationship and really try. For the past two or so weeks things have been more like when we were dating and first married, where it seemed as if we really were enjoying our time together.
Then today, I found out she contacted the guy again, and told him to call her, but use *67..... Again, I feel deceived.
I keep thinking that if I cant trust her maybe I should end things.
It's really driving me crazy because I believe she hasn't had a physical relationship outside our marriage, but the pain I feel over this deceit sure feels like she had.
I just don't know what to do.
I did some investigating on my own and found ways to get to the bottom of things. I found she had been having this secret "relationship" for several months. I also determined that the guy's wife doesn't know about it either. They would use *67 on the calls when calling a landline, they'd talk about assuring it was "secure" when making a call or contacting each other.
I was hurt and decided to confront her. She admitted to the calls but said they were just friends and it was innocent. I told her how it made me feel and that it was an emotional affair she was having etc.
She said she understood and we decided to reinvest in our relationship and really try. For the past two or so weeks things have been more like when we were dating and first married, where it seemed as if we really were enjoying our time together.
Then today, I found out she contacted the guy again, and told him to call her, but use *67..... Again, I feel deceived.
I keep thinking that if I cant trust her maybe I should end things.
It's really driving me crazy because I believe she hasn't had a physical relationship outside our marriage, but the pain I feel over this deceit sure feels like she had.
I just don't know what to do.
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