I'm a girl who met a guy a few weeks ago and we got on well. We've been talking since then (online). When we first met I was joking about him being my new best friend and I referred to that in one of our earlier messages saying something alone the lines of "if we're going to be best friends you need to accept that about me" (joking about something else). He replied with, "i feel like i don't have a say in this whole being friends thing but i get the jist of that," etc. I asked what he meant by it and he said just that I was forcing him to be my friend (this was an ongoing joke about me 'forcing' him to be his friend btw, not serious).
I wonder now, if he meant he 'got the jist of it', i.e. thought I was implying we can only be friends nothing more?
He could just mean it as face value though, and was teasing me.
I like this guy and want to date him. I've asked him to an event but it's a couple of months from now (he accepted) but it isn't a date as such. I feel like I should just stop pussyfooting around it and just ask him out for a drink. The only thing that really stops me from doing that is that I normally initiate conversation with him, and I always thought if a guy likes you he'll be pursuing you. This guy is pretty chill. He does message first sometimes, but rarely, he does reply, with questions etc. It's cool, but I'd rather us just be mates than me awkwardly be like "hey, I like you!" and he be like, erm no thanks, and then it's too awkward to be friends..?!
I got drunk a week or so ago and messaged him saying hey if you don't like me don't be polite man just tell me, and he found it funny, said he wouldn't do that. I know, I know, no chill right.
I don't normally get crushes so this is new territory for me!
I'm older than him too.
Put the internet to work for you.
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