I have been married for little over a year now but been together for the past five years. We have had our ups and downs but we always try and find a way to work things out. But 3 days ago we had an argument that we solved and started another one.
The second argument was about me giving my mother the car we use on her mother's birthday (which was more than a month ago) and she had planned a surprise dinner. Before I gave my mother the car I had made plans to have another car and ensured that it was delivered. On the day of the dinner, the car second car had mechanical issues but I was able to get everything sorted out in time for the dinner. In my opinion I felt that I had come through for her. My wife started telling me how I shouldn't have given my mother the car and I responded by telling her that before I gave the car, I had made arrangements and even gotten the another car. Tempers flared and she told me to shut up. I don't like being told to shut up and I stood up and tried to leave the house. She said something that I didn't hear but assumed was an insult and turned to her and started talking back at her. My wife realized I was really upset and tried to get away and I grabbed her arm and shoved her across the ro om. I will never forget the look in her eyes. She was frightened.
I have since apologized for my actions and talked to her about it and promised it will never happen again. She is still frightened by my what I did. I don't know why I did it. I have not been able to think of anything else since that day and I can't get over it. I have always thought of myself as a man who would never cause physical harm to a woman no matter the situation. My actions on that day have got me wondering what if that is a precursor to me assaulting my wife. Is there a way I can deal with this issue and make sure it never happens again?
Any and all comments are welcome
The second argument was about me giving my mother the car we use on her mother's birthday (which was more than a month ago) and she had planned a surprise dinner. Before I gave my mother the car I had made plans to have another car and ensured that it was delivered. On the day of the dinner, the car second car had mechanical issues but I was able to get everything sorted out in time for the dinner. In my opinion I felt that I had come through for her. My wife started telling me how I shouldn't have given my mother the car and I responded by telling her that before I gave the car, I had made arrangements and even gotten the another car. Tempers flared and she told me to shut up. I don't like being told to shut up and I stood up and tried to leave the house. She said something that I didn't hear but assumed was an insult and turned to her and started talking back at her. My wife realized I was really upset and tried to get away and I grabbed her arm and shoved her across the ro om. I will never forget the look in her eyes. She was frightened.
I have since apologized for my actions and talked to her about it and promised it will never happen again. She is still frightened by my what I did. I don't know why I did it. I have not been able to think of anything else since that day and I can't get over it. I have always thought of myself as a man who would never cause physical harm to a woman no matter the situation. My actions on that day have got me wondering what if that is a precursor to me assaulting my wife. Is there a way I can deal with this issue and make sure it never happens again?
Any and all comments are welcome
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