Basically, my husband and I have been separated for 3 years, I left. He has medical issues which are posted in previous thread, and was not being very proactive about doing something to try to make things better for himself. I became frustrated with situation, spent more time with my grandkids, away from house and him. Then I decided to move out, and get divorce. We were friendly for quite awhile, neither of us moved forward with divorce. A few months ago, he sued me for spousal support, which was quite a shock, and I was mad. Something I should say is that I never stopped loving my husband, and it was the best relationship I've been in. I got over being mad about support,and decided to go talk to him and find out what was going on. He told me it wasn't a revenge move or anything, changed jobs and could no longer afford some of his meds, and didn't think I would help him if he just asked. So we had long talk a few times, and it was very friendly, so we de cided to see how if we could spend time together, go out to eat, and see if maybe we could work things out.
The problem is my 32 y/o married daughter, she is having a fit. She doesn't understand how I can go from being angry about support issue, to seeing him again. She said I'm keeping things from her because I didn't tell her this when it started. She's just going on and on, he's no different, he's still same. He's sickly, and I'm just going to end up supporting him. She Says she thinks I'm settling for him because it's easy, and doesn't want to see me hurt. She has major boundary issues with me, has always been way to involved with everything that goes on with me.
I Don't really want to discuss it with her right now, but she will not stop telling me how this is affecting her, I blindsided her etc. saying I guess we are not as close as I thought. On and on. This is her stepfather, we married when she was 16. How do I get her to back off, this is my life, I'm 54, for crying out loud.
My daughter can hold a grudge for long time, she said she doesn't want him around her or kids, I said fine, you're prerogative, they are your kids.
I don't know what to do about her, and keep her out of my business and relationship. I told her this is my choice and she needs to respect it or we can not discuss it.
The problem is my 32 y/o married daughter, she is having a fit. She doesn't understand how I can go from being angry about support issue, to seeing him again. She said I'm keeping things from her because I didn't tell her this when it started. She's just going on and on, he's no different, he's still same. He's sickly, and I'm just going to end up supporting him. She Says she thinks I'm settling for him because it's easy, and doesn't want to see me hurt. She has major boundary issues with me, has always been way to involved with everything that goes on with me.
I Don't really want to discuss it with her right now, but she will not stop telling me how this is affecting her, I blindsided her etc. saying I guess we are not as close as I thought. On and on. This is her stepfather, we married when she was 16. How do I get her to back off, this is my life, I'm 54, for crying out loud.
My daughter can hold a grudge for long time, she said she doesn't want him around her or kids, I said fine, you're prerogative, they are your kids.
I don't know what to do about her, and keep her out of my business and relationship. I told her this is my choice and she needs to respect it or we can not discuss it.
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