Hey everyone,
Something has been on my mind for quite some time. I love life and the universe and while this doesn't make me sad, I still think about it from time to time and wonder if there is anything I can do to improve (although I realize we are all unique and perfectly imperfect).
I don't know what it is, but something about the way I carry myself seems to put women off.
At first I thought it was my posture and health so I've corrected that by staying on top of it, eating healthy and doing daily exercise. I've lost considerable weight and gained lots of muscle. I don't have a beer belly and almost have a 6 pack (excited!!). I'm 25, white (not that it matters), have hair, don't smoke, good job, own a house, great circle of friends, etc. I am a very nice guy, and I learned how to be more alpha and extrovert (which took some practice). I've gotten many dates and for the most part I am fortunate to have had a good sex life. I don't have any fear inside nor do I get anxious around women. I can hold solid eye contact. Sometimes I think it has to do with my height (5'5) and basic biology (dominance and natural selection) and other times I think it's because I lack empathy (trouble feeling sorry for others and being sympathetic). I love to laugh and smile a lot, but my default face expression is quite cold. I've started to hang with more women to try and get to know them and take dance lessons; ultimately increasing my yin energy.
I've gotten over the height thing and I don't have any self-pity. I know I am sexy and I've had women confirm it. Other times I think, well, I am pretty busy, maybe I give off an air of impatience? Don't know...
Then I thought well maybe it was the fact that I am kind of a goof or aloof, careless, quiet (introverted). I have lots of women friends who like these traits of mine, and I don't care what women think of me. Either they like it or don't, but I don't seek approval from them anymore (haven't in a long time).
I love women, but don't know why they treat me like **** or are usually not interested. By treat like ****, I mean ignore me completely when I ask a question or talk. I don't act negatively when that happens and give off the napoleon complex. She's not interested, fine. I am not going to waste my time on someone like that.
I often feel like the universe is telling me I have a higher purpose and is deliberately ****blocking me to make more time for my dreams and goals. Lol. Perhaps it's the competitive environment too. There are lots of beautiful men around here. I don't know.
I've walked past so many women who I notice do a quick scan of me then look away with a little disgust. It's not judgement or perception. I know what I see. It's pretty obvious. I have good hygiene and wear nice, fitting clothes, so I don't understand. Even when I talk to women in a non-flirtatious way, either with friends or at work, they seem to scurry as if they feel unsafe around me.
Sometimes I wonder if it has to do with the fact that I grew up watching porn. I don't feel guilt or shame from it, but perhaps I objectify more then I believe I do and women can tell. Not like I am a creep, look desperate and peep every two seconds, but yeah, I feel like something about how I carry myself turns a lot of women off instantly.
Anyways, it seems the only women interested in me are unhealthy in some way or bbw. I believe in the laws of attraction, but you know I really don't have much negativity inside of me. I always try and view the world through the lens of love and avoid judging whenever possible. I used to think it was the girls in my city, but that's not fair. Maybe it's more of a rant then a question. Regardless, thank you for reading.
So ladies, what do you think? Any ideas? Why do I always get the cold shoulder. Despite everything I have said above, I really don't try hard and for the most part just go with the flow of life. I know everyone has their own opinions and perceptions and I can't get every woman to like me (that's ok, i'm cool with that), I'd like to make sure there is something I am not doing that could in fact be a simple answer.
Something has been on my mind for quite some time. I love life and the universe and while this doesn't make me sad, I still think about it from time to time and wonder if there is anything I can do to improve (although I realize we are all unique and perfectly imperfect).
I don't know what it is, but something about the way I carry myself seems to put women off.
At first I thought it was my posture and health so I've corrected that by staying on top of it, eating healthy and doing daily exercise. I've lost considerable weight and gained lots of muscle. I don't have a beer belly and almost have a 6 pack (excited!!). I'm 25, white (not that it matters), have hair, don't smoke, good job, own a house, great circle of friends, etc. I am a very nice guy, and I learned how to be more alpha and extrovert (which took some practice). I've gotten many dates and for the most part I am fortunate to have had a good sex life. I don't have any fear inside nor do I get anxious around women. I can hold solid eye contact. Sometimes I think it has to do with my height (5'5) and basic biology (dominance and natural selection) and other times I think it's because I lack empathy (trouble feeling sorry for others and being sympathetic). I love to laugh and smile a lot, but my default face expression is quite cold. I've started to hang with more women to try and get to know them and take dance lessons; ultimately increasing my yin energy.
I've gotten over the height thing and I don't have any self-pity. I know I am sexy and I've had women confirm it. Other times I think, well, I am pretty busy, maybe I give off an air of impatience? Don't know...
Then I thought well maybe it was the fact that I am kind of a goof or aloof, careless, quiet (introverted). I have lots of women friends who like these traits of mine, and I don't care what women think of me. Either they like it or don't, but I don't seek approval from them anymore (haven't in a long time).
I love women, but don't know why they treat me like **** or are usually not interested. By treat like ****, I mean ignore me completely when I ask a question or talk. I don't act negatively when that happens and give off the napoleon complex. She's not interested, fine. I am not going to waste my time on someone like that.
I often feel like the universe is telling me I have a higher purpose and is deliberately ****blocking me to make more time for my dreams and goals. Lol. Perhaps it's the competitive environment too. There are lots of beautiful men around here. I don't know.
I've walked past so many women who I notice do a quick scan of me then look away with a little disgust. It's not judgement or perception. I know what I see. It's pretty obvious. I have good hygiene and wear nice, fitting clothes, so I don't understand. Even when I talk to women in a non-flirtatious way, either with friends or at work, they seem to scurry as if they feel unsafe around me.
Sometimes I wonder if it has to do with the fact that I grew up watching porn. I don't feel guilt or shame from it, but perhaps I objectify more then I believe I do and women can tell. Not like I am a creep, look desperate and peep every two seconds, but yeah, I feel like something about how I carry myself turns a lot of women off instantly.
Anyways, it seems the only women interested in me are unhealthy in some way or bbw. I believe in the laws of attraction, but you know I really don't have much negativity inside of me. I always try and view the world through the lens of love and avoid judging whenever possible. I used to think it was the girls in my city, but that's not fair. Maybe it's more of a rant then a question. Regardless, thank you for reading.
So ladies, what do you think? Any ideas? Why do I always get the cold shoulder. Despite everything I have said above, I really don't try hard and for the most part just go with the flow of life. I know everyone has their own opinions and perceptions and I can't get every woman to like me (that's ok, i'm cool with that), I'd like to make sure there is something I am not doing that could in fact be a simple answer.
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