I need some refereeing on a situation that keeps coming up in our life involving my perception of my husband being selfish/disrespectful and his perception that I am absolutely crazy.
Scene: We are winding down the work day (we work together) and it is time to go home. We have an hour before church begins. Husband says I should go home to feed the pets and he will just come pick me up right before church in an hour. I say well I need to go to Walmart to get an important prescription that just was called in for my surgical procedure that will be scheduled in the next few days and we sooo need peanut butter. He says no you don't have time you will have to do it another time, you need to go home for the pets. (I think: Okay it will be closed after church so I guess I will now have to get up an hour earlier tomorrow to allow time to get the medicine before work, which is annoying but manageable I guess. And it is important to let the dogs out before church). So I go home and he comes and picks me up an hour later. We go to church and when we get home we are getting our stuff out of the car and he grabs a Walmart bag out of the backseat.
Me: "Oh, when did you go to Walmart?"
Husband: "After work before I picked you up for church!"
Me: "Awesome so you got my prescription and the peanut butter. Thank you so much!"
Husband: "No, I got the orange juice that I needed."
Me: "Excuse me what?"
Thus, begins a heated discussion about how he only had time for his orange juice and I am aghast at this because I would never in a million years do something like that. I have never gone to a store and just got my stuff and left his stuff for him. In my opinion who would be so rude to do that? Furthermore, these meds that need to be taken at a specific time for a procedure are WAY more important than orange juice. And that's not my opinion that is a simple fact. He thinks I am crazy and I think he was being selfish. This happens every week with something. I truly have tried to see this from any other angle and just can't because I always consider him in everything I do. He just flat out doesn't and thinks I'm crazy because this situation hurts me feelings. Am I being out of line for being hurt by this?
Help us figure this stupid situation out!!
Scene: We are winding down the work day (we work together) and it is time to go home. We have an hour before church begins. Husband says I should go home to feed the pets and he will just come pick me up right before church in an hour. I say well I need to go to Walmart to get an important prescription that just was called in for my surgical procedure that will be scheduled in the next few days and we sooo need peanut butter. He says no you don't have time you will have to do it another time, you need to go home for the pets. (I think: Okay it will be closed after church so I guess I will now have to get up an hour earlier tomorrow to allow time to get the medicine before work, which is annoying but manageable I guess. And it is important to let the dogs out before church). So I go home and he comes and picks me up an hour later. We go to church and when we get home we are getting our stuff out of the car and he grabs a Walmart bag out of the backseat.
Me: "Oh, when did you go to Walmart?"
Husband: "After work before I picked you up for church!"
Me: "Awesome so you got my prescription and the peanut butter. Thank you so much!"
Husband: "No, I got the orange juice that I needed."
Me: "Excuse me what?"
Thus, begins a heated discussion about how he only had time for his orange juice and I am aghast at this because I would never in a million years do something like that. I have never gone to a store and just got my stuff and left his stuff for him. In my opinion who would be so rude to do that? Furthermore, these meds that need to be taken at a specific time for a procedure are WAY more important than orange juice. And that's not my opinion that is a simple fact. He thinks I am crazy and I think he was being selfish. This happens every week with something. I truly have tried to see this from any other angle and just can't because I always consider him in everything I do. He just flat out doesn't and thinks I'm crazy because this situation hurts me feelings. Am I being out of line for being hurt by this?
Help us figure this stupid situation out!!
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