I'm satisfied most of the time. I'm used to my life and the way things are but I struggle with happiness in my relationship. I have a boing life... That about sums me up. My situation: I feel like my husband uses me for his benefit and that's all I'm good for. He spends his free time with me. Which is usually while he waits on his buddy to play COD. He texts me and says loving things and spoils me with things when he messes up. Then after I forgive him things go back to normal.
He says "get me..." and I get it, he returns the favors when I ask just only in his time. Whereas I get up almost immediately and do it. He thinks his buddy is hilarious. "Everything that comes out of his mouth is funny". Ugh yeah ok...he might make me chuckle a bit every now and again. I joke and it's never funny I'm left hanging. I've got to the point I give him a dissatisfied look turn and walk away. He might reply something I just ignore, too late.
He won't carry long convos with me. Though he steals my topics and phrases and discusses with his friends or family. Even in front of me. I'll be like did u hear blah blah .... He say that's messed up, then get on xbox and tell him all about it and go into opinions or have a laugh about it whatever.
I like to drink sometimes. He gives me dirty looks when I do. Yet he's a drinker. He's a casual drinker at home with me. Goes to the neighbors and gets wasted forgets about his
Family and stays gone for who knows how long. One time I had to go hunt him down the next morning. I like to drink and have a good time but he won't with me. Another time he was going to be gone a minute (mans time). I knew it'd be about an hour. Well 6 hours later I go to the neighbors hollering at him like an idiot. No I was not nice.
Sex is no more. He a porn addict (ask him he don't look at it anymore ?) I want it but when it happens I don't enjoy it. I've been rejected to many times. He says I need to be sexy in my head. Well when I am he doesn't care. I've rubbed on his crotch with my behind to get his attention at the computer desk. Nope rejected. I've waited for him and played and told him he better hurry. Nope rejected. Yet I'm supposed to be sexy and or willing when he is ready.
He can talk about his problems and anxiety for days, however long it lasts. Asks me the same questions about it over and over. I'm supposed to answer them like its the first time he asked. He repeats the question or waits til I answer. Yet my problems, I talk while he goes about his business and rarely gives his advice. And relationship topic area no go. Apparently if we discuss it it is called an argument not a discussion. No matter the tone.
I know I'm far from perfect. Sometimes my mouth just won't stop and at times I'm lazy and a bit negative. But I think I do him right. His only responsibility is to work and take care of vehicles. He's good at going to work. I wait on him. He asks, I do. Has outings with friends and hobbies. I don't nag him to do things (don't ask him though) if I did more things would be fixed around the house.
I've been a housewife for 10 years and I'm scared to death. I have 2 kids. I've been with him half my life. My Only partner. Do I stay? He does love me and I him, he's not all bad but his faults are affecting my life and happiness. Marriages have ups and downs, maybe this is just a down. Do I go? What if it's the wrong choice what if I miss him terribly and he moves on. What if I can't support myself and kids.
I'm scared to get a job. I don't know why. I loved my jobs in the past. I know I need it, for many different reasons. But I can't make that step. Maybe that would help the relationship also.
I just need someone to talk to and advice from people who've been there. Thanks for any help!
He says "get me..." and I get it, he returns the favors when I ask just only in his time. Whereas I get up almost immediately and do it. He thinks his buddy is hilarious. "Everything that comes out of his mouth is funny". Ugh yeah ok...he might make me chuckle a bit every now and again. I joke and it's never funny I'm left hanging. I've got to the point I give him a dissatisfied look turn and walk away. He might reply something I just ignore, too late.
He won't carry long convos with me. Though he steals my topics and phrases and discusses with his friends or family. Even in front of me. I'll be like did u hear blah blah .... He say that's messed up, then get on xbox and tell him all about it and go into opinions or have a laugh about it whatever.
I like to drink sometimes. He gives me dirty looks when I do. Yet he's a drinker. He's a casual drinker at home with me. Goes to the neighbors and gets wasted forgets about his
Family and stays gone for who knows how long. One time I had to go hunt him down the next morning. I like to drink and have a good time but he won't with me. Another time he was going to be gone a minute (mans time). I knew it'd be about an hour. Well 6 hours later I go to the neighbors hollering at him like an idiot. No I was not nice.
Sex is no more. He a porn addict (ask him he don't look at it anymore ?) I want it but when it happens I don't enjoy it. I've been rejected to many times. He says I need to be sexy in my head. Well when I am he doesn't care. I've rubbed on his crotch with my behind to get his attention at the computer desk. Nope rejected. I've waited for him and played and told him he better hurry. Nope rejected. Yet I'm supposed to be sexy and or willing when he is ready.
He can talk about his problems and anxiety for days, however long it lasts. Asks me the same questions about it over and over. I'm supposed to answer them like its the first time he asked. He repeats the question or waits til I answer. Yet my problems, I talk while he goes about his business and rarely gives his advice. And relationship topic area no go. Apparently if we discuss it it is called an argument not a discussion. No matter the tone.
I know I'm far from perfect. Sometimes my mouth just won't stop and at times I'm lazy and a bit negative. But I think I do him right. His only responsibility is to work and take care of vehicles. He's good at going to work. I wait on him. He asks, I do. Has outings with friends and hobbies. I don't nag him to do things (don't ask him though) if I did more things would be fixed around the house.
I've been a housewife for 10 years and I'm scared to death. I have 2 kids. I've been with him half my life. My Only partner. Do I stay? He does love me and I him, he's not all bad but his faults are affecting my life and happiness. Marriages have ups and downs, maybe this is just a down. Do I go? What if it's the wrong choice what if I miss him terribly and he moves on. What if I can't support myself and kids.
I'm scared to get a job. I don't know why. I loved my jobs in the past. I know I need it, for many different reasons. But I can't make that step. Maybe that would help the relationship also.
I just need someone to talk to and advice from people who've been there. Thanks for any help!
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