My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and we plan to marry. We have a significant age gap - I'm 29 and he's 57, and I know that on a superficial level one will say with conviction that we can't and wont work, but we do and other than normal relationship issues, we've maintained a very happy and healthy one.
My one big problem is my relationship with his 3 adult kids. They're all around my age - 28, 31, and 33 - and I know nothing about them other than the basic and vague info my boyfriend tells me.
I only ever see them at big family gatherings. And it's hard for me to get to know them better when the only time I see them is at a restaurant with grandma, grandpa, 2 aunties, a brother-in-law, and 4 cousins.
My boyfriend never invites me when he goes to meet up with just the kids or when he sees them 1-on-1. I totally get that they want to spend quality time with just them, but I also think it would strengthn my relationship with them if I got to hang out with just them every once in a while in smaller group.
I want to bring this up to my boyfriend, but dont know how. He's going to act oblivious to everything and that'll only frustrate me.
I want to show his kids that I'm nice, friendly, cool, and why their dad has fallen for me, but I feel like I'm never given the opportunity to really show my personality.
Has anyone else had to deal with this?? Any advice??
My one big problem is my relationship with his 3 adult kids. They're all around my age - 28, 31, and 33 - and I know nothing about them other than the basic and vague info my boyfriend tells me.
I only ever see them at big family gatherings. And it's hard for me to get to know them better when the only time I see them is at a restaurant with grandma, grandpa, 2 aunties, a brother-in-law, and 4 cousins.
My boyfriend never invites me when he goes to meet up with just the kids or when he sees them 1-on-1. I totally get that they want to spend quality time with just them, but I also think it would strengthn my relationship with them if I got to hang out with just them every once in a while in smaller group.
I want to bring this up to my boyfriend, but dont know how. He's going to act oblivious to everything and that'll only frustrate me.
I want to show his kids that I'm nice, friendly, cool, and why their dad has fallen for me, but I feel like I'm never given the opportunity to really show my personality.
Has anyone else had to deal with this?? Any advice??
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