So I want and honest opinion. My fiancé and I have been together over two years. He has a domineering controlling mother that he struggles to keep under control, but for the most part, we have been doing fairly well with our day to day relationship. He earns quite a bit less than I do, and he doesn't like to spend money other than to fund his investments and retirement account. He will wear shoes until they have holes, and he contemplates every purchase he makes. This is a point of contention because while I don't spend frivolously, I do like to have nice things and go out for good meals. He just wants to save EVERYTHING! He's ok with expensive stuff and food, if someone else pays! I'm a 31 year old physician, and I have given up my entire 20s to train. I'm finally earning good money and I would like to enjoy it! So we took a trip down to Mexico for my friends wedding. I paid for the whole thing. Hotel, first class tickets, meals, etc. All told probably about 5 grand. Our first night there, vendors at the hotel were selling souvenirs. I saw a bracelet I really liked. It cost 150 dollars. When my fiancé found out he would have to pay a 30 dollar fee to withdraw cash, he said "no." Truth be told, I really think he should have bought the bracelet. All things considered. It was a small cost in the grand scheme, and it would have made me happy. He got pissed off and said it was "junk," probably fake and overpriced. He said the vendors were scam artists preying on drunk people, and that he refused to buy into it. He said it would break anyway, and that he would buy me better stuff at home. The problem is, he doesn't really buy me stuff unless he absolutely has to (wedding ring band, birthday gift that I specifically ask for, etc). He gave me wilted cheap flowers on valentines day and said he couldn't afford more than that...but he has a healthy savings account and puts away 700 every month in a 401k. I feel like if the cost is low, and he has the opportunity to do something to make me happy, he should. He's obviously threatened by my income and gets very indignant, stating he can't keep up. I'm not asking for prada here! I know the bracelet was overpriced and had minimal investment value...but the point was to take something away from the trip to remember...a memory of when he buckled down and did something spontaneous. He tells me he is practical, and I need to deal with it. I told him that being practical 100% of the time kills the romance and spontaneity. It makes our relationship feel like a business contract. His response: marriage is a business contract. Sigh
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