Without going into the whole background of my current relationship with my girlfriend, I'll try to summarise it for you.We met at work, I'm 23 and she's 31. So age gap is 8 years although never been issue really. She is Slovakian but came here over 7 years ago, has a good job, has bought her own flat and has excellent English.We've been going out since January 2013. In this time, last year was the best part of our relationship. Last June we had a great holiday together (our first and only holiday) and we used to be on the same shift pattern so had same days off together and we would always hang out and go places together on days off.Since about March/April this year, it's all gone downhill.She blames this all on her work/job. Our company had a massive restructure, she had to apply for her job again. However she was successful and actually got a pay rise! However she is still not certain about job security. And because of this she is literally at work every single day taking up any overtime available! So basically my issue is that she is literally at work every day because she (wrongly) assumes her job may be at risk again.On top of this she has sometimes said throw away comments like 'oh I'll just go back home to Slovakia if I lose my job' There is no effort made by her to arrange any days off together, she always fills them with overtime! This is despite me specifically asking her not to.Also there is no talk of the future, our future or anything again because she thinks her job is at risk.Overall this has really knocked my confidence and gets me incredibly frustrated. However it seems that all she cares about is her job and that is it. I am something additional and if I shout loud I can get her attention but most of the time not.Would any of you put up with this?? I'm almost at the point where I don't care any more and will dump her.I'm sick of fighting for her attention and I shouldn't have to. She never makes an effort, never put s me first and just never has the raw time to be with me.Dump or stay?
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